Fellatio freak-out, help?

Asked by captainmunch about 1 year ago, 7 answers.

My girlfriend and I have been together for quite some time now and she'd always made it clear that she didn't want to give me head. I didn't have any problem with that, because I'm convinced that you only have to do what you want to do in bed.
However,...

we went on vacation for a few days and had incredible sex (thank you, double beds). The last night of our stay was even moreso intense and I ate her out (which I normally don't do either), basically making her scream for more... And she was like What do you want me to do? I'll do anything for you so yeah, obviously I went for the blowjob.
It was great, but afterwards she just felt bad and disgusted by herself and I'm afraid it may have freaked her out so badly that she isn't comfortable around me anymore... I feel like the bad guy even though I told her that she didn't have to do it, if she didn't want to... Any tips?

Myself & my man Answered by tifferbo on Jul 26, 2008, 01:35PM
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well I would say that you should give her a little space, until she gets more comfortable.. Make her feel good by complementing her, and telling her she's beautiful etc.
You want to make her feel that she is special and that you loved it.

Because right now she is probably feeling embarrassed, which is totally normal. She is probably feeling that she wasnt good at it or something. You need to re-assure her.

When 2 people get rawled up they tend to get into things a lot more, and sometimes afterwards, if its something they normally dont do, then they tend to really think about it and feel that they sucked, or you hated the way she did it. Things like that =)

Answered by captainmunch on Jul 26, 2008, 01:40PM
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No it's not like that, she's just genuinely grossed out by it and thinks she's disgusting, not bad at it... It was more like Oh GOD, I had a penis inside of my mouth. She said I should just forget about it, but obviously, I can't. It's not like getting head is what I'm going for here, I just want her to be comfortable around me and letting go of it isn't really a masterplan...
Thanks for the reply though!

Myself & my man Answered by tifferbo on Jul 26, 2008, 02:04PM
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she will eventually let go and be comfortable around you with that... if that's the case, no worries!

I know it could be upsetting to you that she isnt feeling comfortable around you, but I wish you the best of luck and hopefully she will come around... they normally do. It's something she will grow out of.

you can try talking to her about it, and try and make her fell that it's not a big deal if she doesn't like it

Answered by captainmunch on Jul 26, 2008, 02:14PM
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The thing is that she's upset because she really doesn't like it and did it, grossing herself out and not that she doesn't like it and doesn't want to do it again... In other words, it's about her giving head, not me getting head. I figure she'll let it go, but she looked genuinely crushed at the time and I couldn't comfort her because I'm the one with the penis and that's why approaching this is so difficult for me.
She doesn't have any problem with sex and handjobs and stuff like that, but the idea of giving head is really unnerving to her and that's why I never asked her to do it for me, until now. Complicated issues!!!

Myself & my man Answered by tifferbo on Jul 26, 2008, 02:22PM
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ya I knew what you meant. its something that only time will tell.

I dont know what to tell you to do theres not much you really can do I guess, I'm sorry I've never really had this issue, so if you cant talk to her, if she's that uncomfortable with that, then I dont know what you can do...maybe someone else will come alone on here and give you a good answer.

sorry =(

Answered by captainmunch on Jul 26, 2008, 03:19PM
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Well, I can talk to her, but not really about that... She went home after we got back so I haven't really talked to her in person so I can't really gauge how comfortable she is around me and whether it's still on her mind.
I doubt many people have had this issue, but thanks for the support regardless!

Myself & my man Answered by tifferbo on Jul 26, 2008, 04:09PM
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no problem. hope things get better for you.

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