Fellas, would you get mad at you girl for that?

I don’t know how long I can take my boyfriend's weird behaviors and odd requests anymore. My best friend is having a party for her college graduation next week, so of course I'm invited and all that and so is my boyfriend. So yesterday, my bro's ex girl was over my house and asked her if she wanted to come to this party with me, she said yes. Last night I told him that she's coming with, us he completely freaked out. He was like; I wish you would run it by me first if anyone is riding with us in the car. I was like, what's the big deal, and he said, well now you going to be talking to her the whole time yabadi yabada. The last time we went to my friend's party, he started an argument with me the second we left the party because there was a guy there who was trying to have a conversation with him. He said the guy was talking to much. He said he also wanted to go pee but could not, his excuse was: there wasn't a vent in the bathroom. I seriously don’t want him at the grad party because I know he’s going to BS me about something stupid. He always wants me to run things by him first. he tedious, annoying.
Every time we have to do something that involves my friends; we always end up with an argument.
We have been dating for 2 years and he has never met my other friend, whom I have been friends with for 8 years now. About a year and a half into the relationship, I told him that we should double date with my friend and her boyfriend. He was like, “does her boyfriend has to be there, Why can it just be her and us.” I was like, “why should she be the third wheel.” Moreover, that was another argument. Sometimes I feel like he thinks he’s too good for everybody else. He called me stubborn just because I will not do what he asks.
He is a nice guy, but I feel like his requests are unbearable and I don’t know why these things bother him.
May I add that we always hang out with his friends and there’s never any complaint from me ever. I am a faithful girlfriend, and I don’t deserve to be treated like I’m a cheated or a liar. I don’t even have any guy friends like most girls do.
What should I do?
ladies, am I being unreasonable?

im sorry but you need to dump his sorry butt!!

thats just my opinion

well no your not being unreasonable...infact he is being childish...although the first thing about not telling him about the other girl riding with you 2...I would have been a little mad to..I like to just be alone with my girlfriend on the drive or w/e...but yah everything else is fine, but like his reason for the car thing was stupid...all 3 of you could have talked as long as you don't ignore him(I assume you dont)...but yah..good luck

I would bet that you fell in love with him for a hundred different reasons. The fact that you are focusing on his flaws seems to show that you are looking for a way out of the relationship. If you aren't happy and don't see yourself being happy with him, get out of the relationship now. If you want to work things out, go to couples counciling.

He is definitely unreasonable, but recognize your own fault in this cycle...
Maybe he keeps asking and demanding because you dont say no...
You can be a nice person and a good girlfriend and still draw the line somewhere.

First thing you need to realize is you cant change his behavior... You can only change your own. And once you do, it will surprise you how quickly he will change his too...

Expect resistance (people dont like it when you change the rules on them) but you definitely need to start saying no and making your needs met.

Dont get into arguments with him about it.

Use I language (I feel, I want, etc) vs. you languange (You never, you did this).

Dont focus on who started what, who did what, and dont try and change his mind. If his demand is unreasonable dont try to make him see that. It wont get you anywhere. Just tell him you feel it is unreasonable (again I vs. You language) and try to reach a compromise (if he feels you spend the whole time talking to her, promise you will involve him in the conversation, or try and spend equal amounts of time talking to both of them).

If he is unwilling to compromise or talk about things, then you may be better of without him...

But my guess is he really will start treating you better...

Remember 'I' language, (I feel that I am not treated with the trust I deserve vs. you dont trust me)

you should dump him. I'm sorry but I use to have a friend that was acting weird like that and she wouldn't like for me to hang out with other friends and when she would have guy problems she would come over and tell me all about it, but only if I was not doing anything, I would invite her to the club and she wouldn't want to go because of other friends. but I'm glad she is married now, I was starting to get scared. anyways, this guy is probably selfish and wants you all by yourself. he needs to become friends with your friends too. if you are not happy and he is just your boyfriend, dump him you can probably find someone better. both of you have to be social with eachothers friends.

good luck!

no but I think you should sit down and talk to him and if that does not work then say it is over

It sounds like he may feel a little insecure around your friends. Insecurity causes people to want to control the person they are with. You may have to address this problem ... not in anger ...but start with I Love You and really tell him how it makes you feel when he gets like that. Don't make your conversation all negative , because he will get offended right away. Tell him the positive things that you like about your relatioship as well. Being honest is best...Let him talk as well.

Leaving him would be the best option. He sounds like a very controlling person, and they start out trying to cut you off from your friends and family so that you are alone, and then they become abusive when you have no one left to turn to. I wouldn't discuss it with him really, he will probably just get angry and try to convince you out of it. He may cry and make you feel sorry for him. However, this is just their way of manipulating you so that you will do what they want. You are obviously not happy, and you should only be with a person if they make you feel wonderful about yourself and life. Being alone is a little depressing for a bit but its worth escaping a lifetime of misery with someone that you don't love. You will find someone who loves you and is willing to treat you with respect, care and kindness. They won't go around trying to rule your life. Good luck
Brian D.

Actually I remember reading something about what Brian has said and that abusers start off by trying to cut you off from your friends etc. So yes, getting out of the relationship is definately the best option, even if he isn't an abuser it sounds like your not happy in the relationship and that's never good. But if you like him so much that you are compelled to stay with him, try talking to him, but if he does get angry just get out of there!
Hope this helped x