Feeling unappreciated

My mother is 40 and im 21 I m finishing up police foundations in college I want to be a cop. My mother and father divorced when I was 12 because my father was lazy and iddint want to work. So my mom took both positions of a parent. I have two younger...

sisters aged 13 and 14 . The 14th one has developmental delay. I have been threw a lot of beating and sadness throughout my younger years due to the divorce. My mother or father dont do drugs at all. I have a boyffriend that gave me an ultumatum to move out with him or else he would leave me. he was my boyfriend of 2 years. I choose to stay home becuase I wasnt ready to get married. I never did drugs or been to a club before I have my own car I go to school and I work full time. and I used to do a lot of volunteer work. mY mom works a lot of nightshift and I babysit my sisters. I been doing this since I was 16 I never got to go out much becuase I felt like I was a aprent traped in the house taking car of 2 kids for 12 hours a day. Now that im growing up and I want to go out more...and I would even wait till she gets home then I would sleep over at my friend house we would make it a blockbuster night, My mom sais I am ignoring the family. I dont care about her. She sais she never sees me at home. Its not my fault I have school ffrom 9 to 5 and after I get home she is working till 11. Then I go out when she gets home. She wants to kick me out if I keep goign out every fridays and saterdays. And laso lately at school I met this really nice girl she is a lesbian. I fell for her and we ave been together for 6 months now. My mom said if she found out I was bi she would disown me. I feel like she is tryign to live her life threw me. and its like the type of daughter I am to her she doesnt appreicated it. Is this worth leaving over.?...Will she really never talk to me again?...why cant she just loosen therope. I know she is afraid of loosing me. But who can I talk to.

ohh sweetie you seems like a nice girl ... you dont deserve that xoxo
mmm, I have exactly the same prob ! ... but it's my boyfriend who found out that I'm bi !!!
I have no Answers to u !! but wishing a good luck xoxox

Sounds like yu and your mom need to sit down and have a talk, lay it all out on the table. You can't control how she is going to take all this. But you can control yourself and do what is right for you. You have made great choice in your life and have done a lot for others. It is o.k to put yourself first. You are a Adult and need to get out on your own and start your life. I don't think your mom will Never ever talk to you again. I think she may be upset and have a lot of her own feelings to deal with, but I think if you give her time she will come around. and if she doesn't you can't put your life on hold for her. You will never be happy if you choose that. Do what your gut tells you to do. Best of luck to you.