Family chaos, i would like an adults opinion

Ok my mom has had like 1000000 boyfriends since I was little. She was married once for a few years but it didn't last. I was like 7 ish then.
Well she met this new guy. And he's ok. Nothing special. Or thats what he used to be. He was in shape, fun...

loving, funny, smart, just a cool person when she met him. Well they started living together and he proposed to her. Well long story short(er) they've been living with eachother for 5 almost 6 years now and he keeps promising to marry her but he never will and I know it. He doesn't respect her. He's gained a lot of weight and he's never home excpet on the weekends and he just lays around and orders me around. She does everything for him. His laundry, his cooking, cleaning, pays his bills, does his paper work for him, does his taxes, fixes his problems with his boss at work, gets him jobs, takes care of his dog and house or horse. And my mom can't handel it. She takes all the stress she has out on me and I can't deal with that. They fight like they've been married for 10 years and my mom treats him like an idiot. I think they need to just break up for good now, he owes my mom a lot of money too by the way, but my mom cannot live without being with a guy. She's very codependant. I've tried to talk to her about his and she just blows me off and tells me she's sorry I feel that way but does nothing.
What do I do? I can't move out again. She won't dump him or listen to me. They are mean and nasty to eachother and then they take it out on me... I'm lost and confused and frustrated and I can't take it. All we do is fight anymore and I'm losing my mind here.
Any suggestions? I would appreciate an adults opinion.

Dear danymarie,
First of all print out what you wrote and let your mother read it. See where it goes from there. You cannot do anything, she is an adult and has been in many relationships. There is something keeping her in this one. She knows how to leave or kick him out but she isn't...there is a reason why. I would suggest you talk with an aunt or a close relative she respects and tell them your story and ask them to talk with her. Like I said there is a reason she is staying with him and not looking as she used to do. Do you think she could be depressed...has she let herself go, not eating, eating too much, showing no happiness etc. If this is the case get some info on depression and leave it where she can see it.
Sue...good luck

well, im no adult, but I think you could use all the help you can get. (no offense intended). I dont really think that thers much you can do since you've already talked to your mom, but maybe you should just talk to the guy and give him a peice of you'r mind! stop letting him order you around! I really hope that things turn out good for your family. stay okay, jessi!

I tried to talk to him once and my mom yelled at me and he ignored me and let my mm handle things. but thank you. maybe I will try it again.

So here's the adult opinion. I don't know, is 30 adult? Sure doesn't feel like it. Anyway...

One of the basic, terrible truths of adolescence is this: most of the problems that are overwhelming, overpowering, all-consuming, soul-crushing, and utterly unbearable have only one solution. Wait until you're 18.

Controlling parents won't let you get a tattoo/piercing/older boyfriend? Wait until you're 18 and do it anyway. High school a pressure-filled experience filled with hateful simpletons? Wait until you're 18 and go to college. Acne making your face a craterous mess? Wait till you're 18. You're glands should settle down a bit by then.

It isn't what you want to hear, but this is the hard truth about your situation as well. Your mother has made her own choice, for better or for worse, and since she's stayed with this man for this long, you're going to have to accept the fact that she has reasons that aren't clear to you. Wait until you're 18 and can get out of that situation and begin to build your own situation. The good news is that you're almost there. Rocking the boat at this point is going to make things even more unbearable for you and your mother, so take a few deep breaths and keep telling yourself just until I'
m 18, just until I'm 18.