What if I get raped at this party tomorrow?

ok so im like extremrely excited for this party. its tomorrow night. basically what it is is there will be 3 girls and 12 guys and we are all sleeping in a backyard. everyone is staying overnight and I don't know how im going to hide the fact that there is guys there from my parents. plus if I get grounded I only have four days left of summer. one of the girls is a lot yuonger than me adn some of the guys are 16. one of my close friends whose a guy said that the guys might try and hurt us sexually in our sleep? do oyu really think they might? im scared I dont want to get raped but I HAVE TO GO BECAUSE MY FRIEND AND ME WHO ARE BOTH ALMOST 14 wants me to be there because she s losing her virginity and she only wants to do it with one guy but shes scared otheres might like take a turn or something. also the next day how do we get the morning after pill without her parents knowing she doesnt want to get pregnant. also if they try anything like if I got raped or something what would I do!!! I mean I cant go to the doctors or something because its the law that if yuo say it was a rape they have to call the cops I dont want anything like that but I really want to go cause its going to be really fun. plus there might be alcohol! : )

Dont Go.
Its not worth it.
Your not even 14 yet.
Your friend shouldnt be losing her virginity yet,
And Its not safe for you to be with people so much older;;especially Boys.
If theres somehting your hiding from your parents;;
Usually it means its because they wouldnt approve,right?
Well think of how bad youd feel if you went,got raped,and had to tell them you lied.
Its just really not worth it.
Drunk Teen boys can get out of control,I've sene it happen.
But luckily,I've got great friends who helped me out.

Dont risk your life for a party.
if your friend wants to go and get hammered and lose her virginity to a random guy,
then so be it.

but dont go.
its NOT worth it.
=]

wow,
dont go its so not worth it,
if you get raped you ahve to tell and if they get in trouble the guys who did it yea there friends will be mad and want to eff you up more. so dont do it. your not 14 yett? nu uh. thats not what you need to do, who cares if it has alcohol. drunk guys do get out of hand like the girl above me said. and yea I've sene it happen too its not a pretty sight. your friend is wayyy too young to be loosing her virginity is she crazy? who cares the morning after pill. you could still get pregnant. my friend did that and she got pregnant and that was when she was 14 now we're older and she has a lil boy. and that lil kid has NO dad. so most likely I bet your going to go. but who can stop you? no one. just take the advice and dont go totally a waste of time & your risking your life for what? a stupid partyy.

Sweetie,

Tell your parents what's going on. You will regret going for the rest of your life. If you have to lie, you shouldn't be going. If you don't want to tell your parents, do you have an older brother or friend who can sit down with your parents to discuss what's being planned? Someone, including you, could get hurt, or worse, end up dead.

if I went and got raped adn didnt tell anyone could I get in trouble? like illegeal trouble or something? I don't know what to do im soo confused. I want to go because I want to support my friends but I dont want to get hurt or get caught by my parents. plus if I dont go then id miss out but if I do go I dont want to end up pregnant. if I got raped I wouldnt have to worry about elling my parents I never would. ever. they'd hate me. I mean its not really scaring me that theres guys there its just scaring me that im sleeping alone in a room withthem all by myself and there older and stronger. I mean when the kids im going with play games they play hard. like you have to take off all your clothes under a blanket(including underwear and bras.) and let the others put them back on you and like if someone gets dared to eat you out you have to let them.

fucCCC**KKK that dude

Why would you or your friends want to go anywhere you might get raped? What kind of party is this and why would you want to attend. If you are thinking this might happen there must be due cause or speculation.

There will be plenty more parties and sleep overs. Sit this one out if you have any doubts.

Why are you even going then? don't go then. god.

This whole situation is pathetic! You dont want to go because you want to be supportive for your friends. Well, you are making VERY POOR choices here! Theres going to be alcohol, 16 yr old boys, only 3 girls who are much younger, and your afraid these boys are going to rape you...isnt that enough to say, 'IM NOT GOING'? Whats the matter with you? I just cant believe that knowing what these boys will probably do to you, you still want to go! Then you are just asking for whatever these boys do to you! In my opinion, you girls are being very stupid and naive!! Why are there so few girls to so many guys? You need to wake up girl, and realize this is not fun! Alcohol on top of everything is just making things even more worse! Youve already been informed about what may happen to you, and if you are still willing to go, then you are going to get whats coming to you! You are not making a very mature decision here. Its DUMB, and totally rediculous!

Im so glad that I had my mom to talk to, because first off...I would NOT be putting myself in any postion to be hurt, used, or taken advantage of by a bunch of idiotic boys who throw their weight around and prey on innocent, and naive little girls who dont know any better. Trust me hun> this will NOT make you popular by any means. Except for the fact, all the boys will want you for one thing. If your passing it out, then they are going to take it. You will not be respected by anyone. You will start to have an even more lower self esteem problem than you already do right now! No one is going to look down on you for not going. That shows confidence, and maturity! By going, you are letting these boys know that you are up for whatever happens, and you will probably get it!! Its just not worth all the stress your going through right now. This isnt going to be a party, its going to be an orgy!! If you know whats good for you, you'll pass this up, or you are going to have a lot of regrets to deal with!!

I am totally with Angel Fire on this one...and by the way SandyCandyLuvsU, I'm sure your father would be proud.

The fact that you feel this way and are worried tells you that you shouldn't go. It isn't worth it...I know that you might lose a friend but you need to tell her parents because it would ruin your friends life if she makes this bad decision and goes only to end up raped and probably pregnant...please save yourself and your friend.

Trust me I know!

jokes. 'there might be alcohol' !!! what are you ten? look at your question again in a couple of years, and see how immature it is. grow up. x

I have to agree with everyone else who's said anything here. You will ruin your life. You will regret it. Don't ruin your life just for your friend. If she wants you to do that then she's not a good friend. Simple as that

xxBambaxx

I was raped trust me and don't go PLEASE don't go it's been 8 years since the first time and 4 years since the second time the same guy raped me and I still can't get over it. I have nightmares all of the time and have had some health issues because of it thank goodness I'm healthy and OK now! Besides any guy that rapes a girl is a coward and should burn in hell! I forgive the guy that did what he did to me but I wont ever forget. By the way he is still out there he was NEVER caught by the police if it hadn't been for me taking a self defence class 2 days before it happened to me I wouldn't be here today and wouldn't have my wonderful husband and gorgeous son! It was meant for me to go to that class and to think I wasn't going to go because I thought I didn't need it. By the way I would highly recommend every women and young girl to do so they teach classes for free all the time go with a friend it's fun too and you never know if it will save your life. IT saved mine! 2 days later!!!

yeah that totally sounds like a happening party to me

what are you thinking. you and your friend need to get away from that...
if you are going to drink ... get some drinks and go somewhere else...

you need to go to that party just to be cool.

im here for ya if you need help funmail me !!

Okay, im 13 and I probably sound pretty weird but I would love if I was in that situation bc I barely have any fun like that. But seriously I don't think you should go bc if you think you might get raped then why would you take that chance? my best advice to support your wanting to go is to just go there for the party part and don't spend the night. And sorry if I'm late answering this but uhm message me and tell me how it went!!

girl there will be so many more sleepovers in your life!!! I don't know what you are thinking or your friend but no girls should be at an almost all guy sleepover . You must not be thinking straight!!! Hello these guys have probably been there and done that!!! I'm sure none of them are virgins. I'm tellin you dont do it because itz not worth it!