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Engaged and underage, how to tell my parents?

RKO Asked by rayray2012 about 1 year ago, 12 answers.

Im 14 and my boyfriend asked me to marry him
He told me he knows im the one and only girl he
Could ever be with the thing is hes 15 and almost 16
He is so much of what I was looking for in life I love him so
Much hes my world

How do I tell my...

parents?

jesse Answered by nareena on Mar 25, 2008, 05:04PM
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I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL BUT NO DO NOT GET MARRIED AT 14 THAT IS INSANE CAN'T YOU WAIT UNTIL you R 18 OR SOMETHING you R SO YOUNG DID YOU EVEN THINK ABOTU THE FUTURE before you AGREED I DON'T THINK SO please TAKE MY ADVICE I AM NOT SAYING TO BREAK UP I AM JUST SAYING THAT GETTING MARRIED AT 14 IS CRZY DON'T YOU THINK?

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Mar 25, 2008, 05:07PM
53985 answers

There is no need to tell your parents because honestly you may not even make it to the age where you are able to make that decision. I am not trying to be mean but give it time. There is no need to rush into something! You have a lot of time. If you are still together when you are 18 then that is great but dont expect your parents to sign to let you marry at 14.

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Mar 25, 2008, 05:24PM
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ok love at 14 and 15 is not actual mature love. just because your in love with this boy now doesnt mean you will be in a couple years. your still changing as a person, and he is too. don't throw away every other guy in the world for something that may seem like love, but could just be a simple infatuation. My advice is to definatly wait, if he is the right guy everything will turn out right in the end anyway, and if he isnt, you'll be glad you didn't commit yoursef when you were only a kid.

Answered by angelfire2708 on Mar 25, 2008, 06:43PM
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*Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.
*Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
*Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating.
*Infatuation brings the feelings of jealousy and distrust.
*Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity with a high level of losing 1 another.
~Love means trust, you are calm and secure with 1 another.
~Love involves honesty, respect and trust each other.
~Love says don't rush into anything. You are sure of everything,

Love means trust,
you may fall into infatuation,
but you never fall in love.
Love usually takes root slowly
and grows with time.

** Infatuation leaps into bloom.**

All this rush at such an early age, only proves you are both infatuated!

me! Answered by jaro_chase on Mar 25, 2008, 10:17PM
12 answers

these are the reasons why divorce rates are super high.

finally, a new photo! Answered by pirate89rawr on Mar 26, 2008, 12:03PM
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I agree with jaro_chase. Honestly, I am 18 and just got engaged after dating my fiance for 3 years next month. At your age, you aren't mature enough to even understand what marriage really entails. Please, for the good of all mankind, just tell him no and live your young life... Also, don't get married for a long time... thanks.

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Mar 26, 2008, 12:28PM
53985 answers

that is the most sweetest thing ever lol, aww hope it works out for you. x x-

Kurotsuchi taicho from Bleach Answered by sillist1s on Mar 26, 2008, 03:57PM
1465 answers

hmmm 14 and 15...I think it's just puppy love and having that type of love will make you do stuff that's possibly regretable later.

Answered by chaosxkitten on Feb 25, 2009, 09:33PM

Ugh yeah they're all telling you you're too young. Maybe you're not too young. I'm 20, and engaged to a 19 year old. I'm the girl, of course.

Sometimes these relationships DO work out. But IF he loves you enough to marry you then he WILL RESPECT YOU. As in, he's not using engagement to get you to do things you'll regret. Maybe he should get you a promise ring. Have an engagement to be engaged. Same thing really, just means that you've got priorities of school and growing, and you'll worry about weddings later on. Maybe you could wait until you're 18 to get a diamond ring, and then maybe 20 or 21 to get your wedding band. It's not really that long, and IF HE LOVES YOU he will respect your opinions. :]

good luck!!

Answered by kana1091 on Mar 25, 2009, 02:22PM

Okay you never know if you are too young. Go with what your heart tells you. Im being completely honest here, I was engaged to my boyfriend at the age 15 and he was 18 (It was 2 years and 5 days apart). We were engaged 8 years and we got married when I was 23. We have been happily married for 5 years. See, you should follow your heart. Things are different for certain people. This has nothing to do with maturity like certain comments are saying (well abit of it does haha). If you feel like you are willing to commit to this guy 100% then I have you my blessings, but you have to be completely sure of this. I know when I was 15 my parents disapproved of him and said what I had was puppy love...I knew it wasn't. My heart told me that I wanted to be with him and I wanted to support him and be his strenght. So this is really up to your heart and if you are SERIOUS about being committed and taking a HUGE step in being an adult. I know things will work out for you no matter what path you choose, so I wish you the best of luck happy

Answered by channingsbabe on Jul 28, 2009, 09:17PM

Well I am 15 and my boyfriend is 17 and he wants me to marry him and I dont know exactly how to say it to my parents but I know that I am mature enough as is he and even though it does have some stuff to do with maturity they cant tell you rather you are in the right or the wrong. So what I can say is if you REALLY love him...the go for it...dont let someone tell you not to do something you want to and dont do something that you dont want to either. Like what was said just follow your heart.

Answered by lemonade3 on Aug 21, 2009, 11:40AM

Well, this is a tough subject to adress, since everyone does mature at a different rate. (No, I don't just mean boys versus girls!) I'm currently 15 years old, in a reltaionship with my dream guy who is also 15, and we have known each other for about a year and a half. We are very much in love- not lust or infatuation, for you doubters of young love out there- and we have discussed getting married someday. However, discussing getting married someday, and actually making it official with engagement is pretty different.
All I can tell you is pray hard about all of this, and if you truly feel that this is the right decision for both of you, just go for it. Tell your parents when you are closer to an age when you can get married without their consent (18-19), and make sure to discuss it with them with your fiance alongside you, so that all of you are on the same page about this.
Good luck to you both!

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