Emotional and/or sexual relationship.

I'm 16 years old and I have a huge amount of sexual tension at the moment. I've been like this for a couple of months and I just don't understand why it came on so suddenly. I got over my feelings for my friend Jen a few months before I started seeing other girls differently so to speak. I can't say that my feelings for her are totally gone just put aside. Anyway I'm still looking for a relationship but thing is I don't get out enough and I'm really shy when it comes to walking up to complete strangers, especially girls. Also here in Australia the legal age for sex is 16 which makes me want to have it even more. I don't want to be too rude when saying this but stimulating myself just doesn't work. Yes, I do feel satisfied but I just end up craving more afterwards. I want a relationship with sexual acts but I want to be patient when I get a girlfriend and take things slow, so for the moment I just want sex. I know people say virginity is a great thing to have until you meet that special someone but I can't wait. I know what I said is a bit of a contradiction but hopefully you understand what I mean. What do you think I should do?

Believe me, sexual "tension" as you called it at age 16, and 17, and 15, and 18...all the teen years- it's pretty darn normal. I think if you go out with someone you'll see that going slow with them is far better than getting some quick and easy sex, the emotion that comes with doing these things with someone you truly like (and maybe even love farther down the road) heightens everything and makes it much more special and worth it. I wouldn't just let yourself give in to how you're feeling, believe me when it happens with someone who means a lot to you it'll be extremely worth the wait.

But how do I go about getting a girlfriend when I can barely walk up to a girl, who I don't know and say a simple hello (or as simple as some of my friends make it out to be). I mean I've never had a girlfriend but seeing all my friends going out with their girls makes me want to get into that scene also. I know I probably shouldn't be at this age but sometimes I get really lonely and I know a relationship is what I want it's just I still have no idea how to make that major first impression and conversation starter because I'm so shy when it comes to it. I think I also might be afraid to get rejected as well.

If you're 16, then that means you're still at school, so unless you're at an all male private school, why don't you try talking to some of the girls in your classes? Simple as asking, "Hey, did you hear what page the homework is on? I totally spaced out" or something like that. And also, your friends will go through a lot of relationships that probably aren't as meaningful if they're with girls they just met and said hello to, I think if you try have a group of friends first and then think about deeper relationships it's sooo much easier. Just remember, as well, that getting rejected is OKAY. The girl doesn't know you, so who cares what she thinks? And your friends have probably been rejected at least once. Aaaand, lots of girls I know like the shy type, so just be yourself and try your best. If you do it once, then it gets easier as you go. Good luck.

I'm not in school anymore, unfortunately I dropped out. But I am going to college next year but I don't think I can really hold out until then. I didn't mean that my friends get girls by saying "hello". I meant that I'm too shy to even say hi to someone I like when my friends can and have long conversations with the person they just met and they get to know them better. When it comes down to it I just feel lost about what to say to start a conversation. I don't really know where to meet girls either (I feel so pathetic at the moment). I mean for a lot of years I was depressed and I didn't really get out much and it's only now that I've really gotten over it (being depressed) and I still don't go out very much. I'm one of those people who wants to do things with their life but is just too uncertain (I always think of the negative towards things) to do anything and try new things. Is it ok if I get some tips? Like where's the best place to meet someone? How do you start a conversation with a complete stranger without the person thinking you're some kind of weirdo? What features do girls like? You know the whole deal. Any help would be great.

Sorry for misunderstanding! I can tell you that for someone who was also once depressed for several years, I know where you are coming from. I had a hard time knowing where to start, how to connect with people without thinking of the negatives first (once I was better). Some tips I think you can keep in mind are to make eye contact a few times before talking to the girl- see how she responds. If she seems to look back or gives you any kind of a signal she could be interested, go up and just say hello. Ask her (if she goes to college) what her major is, where she goes, how she likes college life...simple things like that. One way to get a girl interested is to make eye contact and then maybe break eye contact but smile as you look away. Be confident. As I said before, if you get rejected, it's not the end of the world and had to happen some time! Some girls like the shy type...I think what's confusing to me is you keep saying a complete stranger. What are you planning on doing, walking along the street and picking someone up? You should know a little about the person from where they are, what they're doing, or who they're with before you go to talk to them. This will help you know what you might have in common so you can talk about it with them. Most pick-up lines or tips smart girls can see right through, so just have fun and FLIRT. Take the lead from one of your friends, he goes to talk to a girl then go and talk to one of her friends...any more questions just ask. Hope I helped at least a little!

Oh, and the best place to meet someone would be when you go to college, or at a party, through your friends, at clubs...unfortunately most people I know meet their girlfriend/bfs through school things, it could be hard to find alternatives.

Thanks for tips. I still have no idea how I'm going to go about things but because I'm more cheerful these days I might find things less complicated. Thanks for tips again, it means a lot to me. I'll be sure to use them when the opprtunity arises.

dont worry in life you will get a girl and have great sex!