Help me stop cutting

I am a 13 year old girl, and I cut my wrists. I just got so depressed. Once I started I couldnt stop. I tried to stop but I still cut myself. I even did it last week. My friends all hated me and 1 or 2 were ok with it and 1 wanted to help. I told them I stopped but after they actually believed me I just kept cutting. I try not to cut deep. no one understands. Im in therapy but it isnt helping, and I get very depressed sometimes that I feel suicidal. I was preppy before but then my dad moved out and my friends were ignoring me and I would get picked on so then I just cut away. Its just so hard. I cant stop. And im lying to every1 I know. please please please help

Hey! ok so I do well did too im on my way to recovery!!!
The best thing that helped me was talking to other people that understood!
and I am a 13 year old girl also. I could probably help a lot!! fun mail me please
we can get through this!

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but if your in therapy and it's not working, how do you think we can help you. I don't even know who you are but is deeply sadens me to read your problem. your not only hurting yourself, but you really are hurting the people close to you as well. If I can feel deeply sad for you, and I have no clue who you are, imagine how it affects the people closest to you when they see you doing that to yourself. Im sure it's something that is really hard for you to stop, but no one here can help you. The only person that can help you is yourself, when you decide your done hurting yourself and your family and friends then you will stand up and stop. My advice is to really evaluate what it is that is casuing you to do this. Hope you make the right choice

ok, well firstly cutting has nothing do do with being emo.
cutting is self harm, or mutilation, and thats a completely different thing than emo.
I know it might sound hard but it does help to talk to people...and get it off your chest.
weather it be your mom, a counsellor, friend, maybe even a teacher, doctor, aunt...whoever you feel confortable talking to.
right now its going to be hard but if you open up to people you love, they can help you through this.
also try and find something else to occupy your time, so instead of cutting you could do something else, like a sport, hobby, take something up thats fun and you love doing.
so instead of cutting, your doing something else.
hope that helped :]

Continue with your therapy. It is the only thing that is going to help you in the long run.
Self-harm is a primitive coping mechanism attempting to relieve emotional pain or discomfort, and you are not in rational control of the impulse.
Good Luck!!

Hi,
Please read this link.

There is a lot of helpful advice on it written by people that are going through this or have managed to change their mindset on this type of behaviour.

http://www.geocities.com/self_harm/alternatives.html

"Pray"... with God, nothing is impossible!
you'll be amazed!

You already included me as your friend and I gladly accept you, I had not read through this though. I also have a daughter your age and I try to talk to her a lot. She's gone through many depressing moments and I fully understand how you feel.

I myself grew up troubled and have gotten counseling. So I know it takes time. The cutting part has to stop. You cannot continue to hurt "you". Imagine if one day you do cut too deep what are the consequences. Little by little a step at a time your life will change for the better. Don't let negative comments or thoughts get in your head.

There is good in life you just have to give it time. Your heart will heal just like your wounds and someday the gloomy day you are living now, will be no more. The sun will shine soo bright that you will only remember these ugly days as a bad dream.

Have patience your life and your way of seeing things will get better.

I know that loneliness can be a bad friend but I really want you to know that I care it doesn;t matter to me if we have never met. I am a mother and I want you to know that you can always count on me.

uuummm...ok?

People can tell you how you out to feel. But, only you can change it. I would like to see you join the ymca and get involved in fitness, using that to help you get your self esteem back and be yourself. Not some prep but the real you. Your teenage years are some of the hardest ever. Also remember that parents are not perfect they make mistake and screw up and we do not have a manual...

Find something you love to do and go for it, draw write dance...

When you get ready to cut again ...remember all of us...we are standing there with you and even though you cannot see us we are holding your hand and wanting to hug you
We cry for you hurt for you and love

Therapy can take a while to work, but it can only help you if you let it.
First you have to believe that you can survive without the cutting. No one is taking it away from you until you're ready to deal without it... But you have to believe that one day you will be able to deal without it.
Secondly you have to stop for yourself... Not for your friends or your parents or anyone else. You need to believe deep down that you are worth stopping for, your life is worth stopping for. You deserve to be happy and you can be happy.
Third - no guilt. Try your best not to cut, but if you do it, no guilt. This is your coping method and feeling guilty will just make you more depressed and more likely to cut. Just promise yourself that you're going to start over again tomorrow and try your best...
Fourth - you need to be honest with your therapist. Brutally honest. If you cut then they need to know. If they are insisting that you do not cut or else, if they make you sign a contract or whatever, find another therapist. A good therapist knows this is a process, you will slip up, and they would rather know about it and figure out why you cut and how to stop it next time.

The thing that helped me most was DBT - It's dialectic behavioral therapy. It takes a while to see the point, the first part can seem a little pointless, but if you find a good therapist who gives you practical advice, it really can help. Talk to your therapist about it... It's usually in combination with your regular talk therapy. I know the idea of more therapy sounds overwhelming, but this is really short term, it's quick and effective.

Goodluck. Funmail me if you need more info about it...

http://www.palace.any...

Im 17 I've been self harming for 4 years and yeah it's easy to give advice and tell people how they can stop but believe me... IT'S NOT THAT EASY!!!
Yeah, we might ony be hurting our selves but to many people like me it releases the pain and hurt inside us.
I'm a mess yeah, maybe my head fkd up, I'm scared on my legs, arms you name it. But everyone needs to stop and think that how to stop is easier said than done! x

Beckz123 - I am not just talking, I've been cutting for 8 years... so yeah it is easy for people to talk, but I've been through hell and back, I'm not just talking...

my friend used to cut as well. she found out that her 16 year old brother was bi-polar, and she was on meds all the time, so if she forgot to take them she was in a really bad mood. but now I think she totally started over and is feeling a lot better...honestly I dont know how she did it. maybe it was the therapy, but I also think it was knowing that there were other people in our school who went through the same thing but now where okay, which made her confindent and now she made a ton of new friends, and we still hang out a whole lot (like every other weekend) SO, my point is, just know that there are other peeps who had this problem, but got through it and now their lives are even better than before!!