Earning the trust of my girlfriend's mother

I am 13 and have been going out with my girlfriend who is 12 for several months. We are in love. She is so smart, fun and pretty and we have so much in common. I can't imagine my life without her. Anyway, everything was fine until we were having a...

conversation on MSN recently. The conversation got a little out of hand and we started talkin about stuff that was inappropriate. Well, her mother walked in at that time and saw what we were talking about. She was grounded indefinitely, told not to have anything to do with me and her computer priviledges were taken away. She still sneaks and calls me when she can, but we cannot go to movies and stuff like we used to.

What should I do? We're both good kids, who made a mistake. Everyone says to wait it out for awhile until her mother feels she can trust her again, then she may start to trust me. We absolutely do not want to break up, even though that would probably make her mom happy. Until her mom trusts me, we can never think of seriously dating when we get a little older. Any thoughts? Thanks!

Wow...that really, really sucks. Parents tend to be really, REALLY protective of daughters. I've NEVER had a pleasant experience meeting a girl’s parent. Maybe I look dangerous? Any way, you're in a bad situation here. If mom is really cool then she may get over it on her own and ease up (don't count on it though) but more than likely you've been black listed and she'll keep a tight leash on her daughter until she either finds a new boyfriend or until she's older (16 maybe?). Your only real hope? It won't be pleasant but you're going to have to sit down with her mother and talk to her one on one. You're going to have to tell her you're sorry and that you understand what you two were talking about was totally inappropriate and that it will never happen again. Tell her that you care deeply for her daughter and that you would like nothing more than to prove that you're worthy of a second chance, etc, etc. Expect to hear many, many unpleasant things. DON'T argue with her or get angry. She may want to speak with your parents about it also. If you come to her on your own in person seeking to talk this out then she'll see you as a more mature and responsible young man and may be willing to give you a second chance. This isn't guaranteed and you may just get the door slammed in your face but at this point can you really get much more screwed than you already are?