Dumbfounded

my girl friend can not orgasam by sex alone. we have had sex for long for like a half houror 45 minutes and nothing works. I have to use hands or toung, witch is fine with me, but not with her. any help...

She may not be as into it, emotionally, when you're having sex- I orgasmed the first time I had sex with my fiancee, but it was kinda weak and it for a while after that I couldn't orgasm either through sex alone. I realized it was because I wasn't being verbal enough, telling my fiancee what I needed or what spot to go to, things like that. Ask her what she likes or what feels good while you're having sex, and try to emphasize those points. Also, make sure she's comfortable and feels like you want to make her happy. If there's a lot of pressure on her to orgasm because you're waiting for it, that also may cause her to tense up instead of relaxing and being in the moment. If you need any more help feel free to funmail me, good luck!