Don't want to have sex anymore... but... how do I tell her?

I've been dating this girl for about 10 months now. We are both in our early 20s and we have been having sex often. This girl is really special for me because we lost out virginity together and I'm in love with her. But I have a problem now. I get very -extremely- worried after we have sex because I think she may be pregnant. Having a baby at this point in our lives -and in the situation we are in- is not possible. So I decided that the pleasure of one sex act does not justify the worry, therefore I decided not to have sex with her anymore. Besides this, we are not compatible in the bedroom. She never reaches an org**m and altought I've told her that I would go to the doctor to see what we can do, she's ashamed of it and wants to keep everything the same way. The problem now is that I don't know how to tell her that I don't want to have sex with her anymore without hurting her feelings and without making her feel that she doesn't satisfy me in bed. Thanks

Have her go on an extremely reliable birth control option like getting the depo shot. I think she would have to go in about every 3 months to get a new shot... so it doesn't get messed up unless you miss a shot. But be careful hormonal birth control can make her a lil wacky when she's first on it.(I cried all the time when I was first on hormonal BC.) It tricks the body into thinking it is already pregnant so she doesn't ovulate and therefore cannot get pregnant.

Of Course you have to get her to go to a gyno. Which she should be doing since she is an adult anyways. They can give you two more information on Birth Control options and she can choose what suits her best

And about the compatability thing... I would just try a lot of different things and explore eachother. If you still can't seem to satisfy eachother, you could see a sex therapist.

Thanks for the answer. She's already on the Birth Control Pill; and believe me, she I've experience the moody side effects long enough. The truth is that I don't want to have sex with her at all anymore. I just don't want to tell her up front 'cause she's going to get hurt so bad. I was thinking about faking a Urinary Track Infection or somehting but then again, I don't want to lie to her. WHat do I do?

Thanks for your answer. She's already on the Pill; and believe me, I've experience the moody side effects long enough. The truth is that I don't want to have sex with her anymore. Not only because the baby thing but also because I'm affraid there is no point in having sex in a relationship that has no future whatsoever. The thing now is that I don't want to hurt her and tell her up front that I don't want more sex. I've been thinking about faking a Urinary Track Infection or something but then again, I don't want to lie to her. What do I do?

YOUR CRAZY WHAT GUY DONT LIKE SEX?????????

Well if you "don't want to have sex because you believe the relationship has no future" ....Why are you still dating her? You're going to hurt her anyway because it sounds like to me you just don't want to be with her anymore. Sit down and have a talk with her. Why don't you feel the relationship has a future?

Well... Why I'm still dating her is because I don't want to hurt her and break her heart. She moved back to her country a few months ago and she's already got tickets and everything to came and visit me in september. There are really -and I mean really- small possibilities for us to be together in the future. Specially because she lives in another country and a relationship between people that see each other for 2 weeks every year is not what I want. Besides that all along our relationship she has been getting extremely mad for really ridiculous things -for example she got mad with me because I call her from the hall of a restaurant instead of the table where I was having dinner with my family-. I just don't want to be with her anymore but I don't want to make her situation even worse that what already is (and it is really bad and sad). What I do?

Just a couple more things. Another reason why I don't break up with her is because I'm affraid she's going to do something stupid if I do so -try to commit suicide, get involved in drugs, etc- and I don't want to feel guilty about it. I also think that is hard for me to break up because I think I have some kind of reposibility with her. This responsibility appeared because I was the one that put the most pressure to have sex. I think I'm still hanging on this relationship because I think that since I took her virginity now I have to be with her. Is that normal? What I do?

Never trust a girl's word that she is on the pill. Always use a condom. Thank your lucky stars you didn't marry her or get her pregnant. Get out while the getting's good. Just know, from someone with more sexual experience than you, that it always gets boring doing the same person over and over again (especially after ten months!!!). Why don't you find someone you are more sexually compatible with - preferably not frigid. Good look dealing with her boo-hooing.

Never trust a girl's word that she is on the pill. Always use a condom. Thank your lucky stars you didn't marry her or get her pregnant. Get out while the getting's good. Just know, from someone with more sexual experience than you, that it always gets boring doing the same person over and over again (especially after ten months!!!). Why don't you find someone you are more sexually compatible with - preferably not frigid. Good look dealing with her boo-hooing.

Dude you really need to get yourself together. You say you don't want to hurt her and I'm sure you already have (quite badly)since I'm answering so long after your post.So many guys want to think they are doing their girl a "favor" by not breaking up with her when they know it's over.If you are involved with someone else or just aren't attracted to her anymore you are just being selfish and will hurt her much more by dragging it out. Be a man. Tell the truth. Be upfront. Move on.

pls be honest. Tell her about your decision. She has already been hurt by you, the truth will be helpful. Otherwise, she will always be wondering what is that going on in that mind of yours...