Does this mean he wants out of the relationship?

my husband at a party saw that an old friend of his had a bit too much interest in me. he went ahead and behind my back got her number.. called her twice.. I found out they were communicating because she called him and I saw the number. he "confessed' and told me it was for me.. if I was interested. I asked him what he wanted out of this, he said maybe make out and feel up on her.. ( in his fantacy world he simply wanted to watch prior to this) I didnt get mad as I would normally because I was so numb from the pain, also I dont want to overreact and cause him to retract from his open honesty or disrespect . I told him it would be fine with me if I can do the same based on the fact that im not into girls I can insted get a guy, I thought it was only fair. he said NO its not the same. I dont see how it isnt the same.. its only a cop-out im not sure how to take this..I think he's playing with fire and I do have the upper hand on this. I know we did marry young and personally I wouldnt mind messing around with another male if he committed to my deal(I know he wont) and if he did I think we would be over since I know he couldnt deal with it. what do you guys think .. I know im not the only woman going through this. but I do need advise and I really cant run to my mother for thi one.

Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.....Maybe you both should talk about Open Marriage agreement....works for some...not my idea of a marriage tho.

geez, so its ok for him to mess around but its not ok for you? plus, what does the fact that you are marriage mean to both of you that you both want to go mess around? yes he wants out, and so should you!!! you both need to leave each other so you can go mess around with who ever you want, this isnt a healthy relationship.