Does my boyfriend really love me?

I'm 26 and I have been in a relationship now for a year. We met on myspace and one day we finally met. Everything has been wonderful up until now. When we met he would call and text me all the time and he would look at me with loving eyes. We've told...

each other we love one another for about 10 months now. But now for some reason I feel that weve grown distant. Maybe its all in my head but I'm not sure. He doesnt seem to want to kiss me or make love to me like before. It seems like Im a nimphomaniac compared to him. Hes not very romantic anymore either. I mean he used to leave me messages on the mirror and words on my computer but now when I look at him it seems as if hes tired of me. He doesnt look at me the same way. All I want is for him to show me he cares. He says he loves me and that hes not going anywhere. But I dont know...how can you really tell

Dear monaland,
It seems you've talked with him and he states that he loves you and isn't going anywhere. Perhaps the honeymoon phase is over with him. Things normally slow down in a relationship and things start to level out. It is very difficult to keep up a demanding sex life, work, responsibilities etc. Perhaps he is feeling some stress? Take it upon yourself to spice things up and be aware of what is happening around you. Is his job stressful, do you know his history...family past relationships, is he still on myspace etc. We should trust our gut feelings and ask the appropriate questions. Also examine your feeling very closely and determine if it is your insecurities that are the problem and speak with him about that. How can you really tell...only by asking.
Sue...good luck

you should try an give him a bit of space an maybe do ur own thing for a while instead of spending evrey single day 2 gether. if he starts thinkin your distant from him he will want to do all them things with you that he use 2 do. just give him tyme and space an maybe u might need a bit of space to.

try talking to him...and maybe you go hang out with the girls and him hang out with the guys...and just let him be him...you know???
and if he really doesnt want to be with you anymore...he needs to tell you that...bc if not your going to be very hurt...just give it a little time...keep doing those cute little things you do that make him smile...

No hes not on myspace anymore we both agreed that our being on myspace would only lead to other people wanting to hook up. We both lost our jobs but he lost his first and hes been out of work for almost 10 months now and Ive been out of work for 1 month. The stress is of it all is killing us both and to top it off we both have kids. I realize that all that has happend in the past year has created a stressful environment for us but I'm starting to see little things about him I chose not to see before. I fell in love with him because he was handsome, confident, straight forward and funny and other little things as well. I normally look for a guy who knows what he wants in life is culyures and isnt afraid to try new things within reason of course. He seemed cool and confident when we first met but now I find that hes nonchalant and thinks romance is something you buy. I love him but other people ar telling me he might not be the one for me. My boyfriend says he has a habbit of ruining all his relationships one way or another. Hes gets agry easily and is not emotionally available half the time. On the other hand when we first met i was calm and cool and more and more carefree. Now i feel like I'm too needy and clingy and I hate that. I didnt think I would have to tell someone that loves me that maybe its not the best idea to have exgirlfirends numbers or not to hang out with them. I was married before and he has never been. Im used to a certain type of life style. One where we make important decions together and support ea other in anything. I dont know that hes at the same level as I am evev though he says he is. How do I tell him how I feel without sounding insecure.

same thing is happening to me right now..im crying over it right this minute..its really hard..I just try and distance myself from him a bit but it doesnt work..I cant take it but I guess I hang out with mates and cry alone and stuff like that to try and let it all out and feel better..its not working for me but I hope it does for you..xx

I tried asking him about it too but he just said nothings wrong...at least with your boyfriend you know that its probably the stress thats causing it..but I have no clue..so really your better off than me...so I wish you the best of luck and hope you have a better life than im having

sorry that was depressing..

good luck

nikki x