Is there a way to lessen the pain of losing virginity?

im 14 and I want to have sex with my boyfriend. but im scared that because my cherry hasnt popped that it will hurt really bad. so does it hurt when you loose your virginity? and is there anything you can take to make the pain less?

You can think twice about NOT having sex at 14, then you can think about it again! Most girls that have sex at a very young age, will tend to regret it later, because they are no longer with the boy that took their virginity! Rarely does young love last. Especially when sex is involved. It changes things...bad and good! There are a lot of emotions, and responsibilities that go along with having sex! It will not keep a relationship from dissolving at any given time!

Here are some questions to ask yourself before deciding>
• Do I respect my partner and does s/he respect me?
• Will I feel good about having sex with this person afterwards?
• Is my relationship with my partner monogamous and, if not, is that important to me?
• If I’m planning to have sex because I have strong feelings for my partner, does s/he return those feelings?
• Can I trust my partner to listen to me and not pressure me into doing anything I don’t want to do?
• Does having sex with this person feel right for me right now?
• Do I know how to prevent unwanted pregnancy or STI’s, and do I have contraception with me?
• Am I having sex because I want to or because I feel pressured by my peers, my partner, or the culture around me?
• Am I prepared to deal with an unwanted pregnancy or STI if our protection fails? (Some STI’s are transmitted even with the use of a condom)
• Would I feel more comfortable having sex if my partner were tested for STI’s?
• Is having sex consistent with my moral and religious values?
• Am I having sex because I’m intoxicated and would I make this choice if I were sober?
• Do I want to have intercourse with my partner, or would I rather engage in other sexual activities?
• And most importantly…Do I want to do this and do I feel comfortable with my choice?

Right now hun>You really arent 100% ready for sex. If you were, there would be NO doubts, and you wouldnt be scared about anything!!

I don't know what it feels like but you are only 14 years old and if you have already had your period you realize that you could be mother at the age of 14 and are you ready for that?? I have some advice for you!! Don't have s*x until your older and ready!!OK!!
Good Luck!!

I agree that you are not ready for intercourse, and it isn't even just about age when I say that. You need to know a lot about your body, birth control, pregnancy, etc. before having intercourse.

It should not hurt to lose your virginity. Most of the time, when a girl feels pain, it's because she had intercourse before taking the time to actually learn about it and her body.

The number one cause of pain is lack of lubrication. You can buy lubricants at the store even if you are under 18. So for about $10 and a trip to the store, almost every single girl could have had a pain-free first time if they just bothered to learn about their body before having intercourse.

The second most common cause of pain is being nervous and tense. That means if you're afraid someone might walk in on you, it might hurt. If you're not comfortable with the guy, it might hurt. If you tense up because you are afraid it might hurt, then it might hurt!

If you're relaxed, comfortable, in the mood, and lubricated, it should not hurt.

That's good that you asked these questions before having intercourse. That means you'll probably save yourself from pain when you do become sexually active. However, there's still a lot more you should know. Here is a site to help you get started http://ww.coolnurse....

Most girls tear their hymen during childhood or puberty from fingers, tampons, running, or jumping. Since there is usually little or no pain involved when the hymen tears, many girls don't even realize it happened.

If you want to learn more about hymens, check out this site http://ww.coolnurse....

okay. so im your same age and I just lost my virginity almost 2 weeks ago. it's scary the feeling that there could be a possibitly I may be pregnant. im very scared that I may be. and im even scareder that I will have to tell my parents if I am. im guessing you think your ready because I bet a lot of people your age that you know are no longer virgins. thats the same way it was with me. everyone around me seemed to be doing it, and well I guess I felt I needed to try. my boyfriend had already had 3 partners before that. but I regret doing it because I know there is no way im ready for a baby. the s*x wasn't worth this much worry. and to answer your question, I don't know how to lessen the pain. but it didn't hurt pretty bad =/ make sure you think twice about everything your doing. and if you choose to (which I almost garuntee you'll regret it) make sure you wear a condom. but please think about your decesion. you're probably not as ready as you think.

ok so I am 15 years. old and I am a mom already. I got pregant with moriah last yr, I was a virgin until then too. The guy I was with said that he doesnt wear condoms for anyone, so I should of stopped there bunt I thought what the hell ya know? why look retarded. So I just did it. Then when he found out I was pregant he said I was a slut and that it wasnt his.Well hun. Please wait until you are older. I mean yes I am very happy that I have moriah. but I should have waited until I was older. Oh. and I know that none of us can stop you but if you do decide to do it then please make him wear a condom. & if he says no he isnt worth your time.