Do i say screw it or go after him?

I met this guy and never expected to fall in love with him I did not believe he was my type at all. I never clicked with someone so easily. We spent every second we could together. Everything was fine until I wanted to know more. I wanted to make sure he...

wanted a serious relationship. At this point we were together about 5 months, he was graduating with his masters degree and I knew since I met him that he was going to move away in the fall to get his PhD which didnt bother me. Until the time came closer. That is when I wanted to make sure I wasnt just going to be the girl he left behind. But I went at it in the wrong way. I got jealous of his ex. He was the type of guy who didnt communicate well and I didnt either. I was not sure on how to bring up the subject of did he want this relationship to go somewhere. So I kept my mouth quiet until one night I caught him saying I love you to his ex girlfriend. I was furious heres the guy that I am falling in love with saying I love you to his ex but at no point as he ever expressed how he really felt towards me. Lets just say he didnt see a problem with it he didnt mean it as I love u. Whatever, we split up for a 3 months, talk rarely, but in this time all I thought about was him. Right before he was getting ready to move we started talking again. And I was so thrilled. We went back to normal except I would not allow him to walk on me I tried keeping some distance. The night before he was moving he invited me over I went, and ended up staying the night. The next morning he was walking me out and he said quot;I hope we can stay friendsquot; I wanted to punch him. That night before was magical like we had never fought. So I was confused and left. We never discussed how I felt. But my friend one night called him up and let him know kinda. Its now been 5 months since he left me. I have a diease and had been in the hospital. He had found out and wanted to come see me and much as I wanted him to I didnt allow it. I was scared of rejection again. Afraid I would want him back again because it is what I want. I could not deal with him walking away from me again. It has now been about a month and we now talk several times a week. And he keeps joking around about he wants me in bed with him. I want him back so bad but does he want me back or just want to sleep with me. He invites me to drive to see him but I do not know if it is a good idea. What should I do. See him and see what happens. I can control it or walk away.

I know it#039;s been a few months since your request for advice...what have you decided to do? Your problem hit very close to home for me.

I was totally into someone and thought that the feelings were mutual, they weren#039;t. We only went out when he was available, we talked on the phone when he had time...I made all the concessions. The mistake that I made was that I allowed him to treat me that way. I made myself available for him. This began in October 2004 and ended in December. Giving him up cold was the most difficult thing I had to do, but if I wanted to keep what little self respect I had left, I had to do it.

In February, he opened the lines of communication again. Getting over him was very difficult and I made the mistake of letting him back in to my life for another few months. Things were great for a month and then his it started again...work, family, other obligations got in the way. Letting him go the second time was much harder because now I have absolutely no self respect or self esteem. My friends who helped me through it the first time refuse to see me through it again.

Stay strong. Do not give into your emotions and allow this person to walk all over you. You can do better. Good luck to you and let me know the outcome.