Do I push my little sister too hard?

I have a sister a grade below me named Kate. I always pushed her to be a good dancer and take a bunch of dance classes and I pushed her to become a cheerleader and dress only from abercrombie and hollister and american eagle. she is just like me now and is one of the most popular igrls in her grade. she says she is happy I kept her from being a 'dork' but I dont think she realizes that she never got to experience anything else ad that she might not really be that person. was I too hard on her? I mean I just didnt want hewr to get made fun of so I made sure she was the stereotypical 'popular girl'

I think its sweet that you wtched out for your sister. but as the saying goes you learn from your mistakes sometimes you have to let her take chances and let her be who she wants to be. dont blame yourself for it you just were being a good sister

I wish I had a brother or sister like that!!! my brother is a loser and I cant follow him to be popular. I learn from my friends. I think you did her a big favor. good job! she grew up to be that person. I think that everybody would think shes not herself if she started wearing stuff from, I don't know, kohl's or walmart. besides, having somebody wear stuff from a store doesnt make you popular anyway. I wear anything I want, from kohls or hollister or ae but it doesnt change who I am or how popular I am. why does she need to experience anything else anyway?

You might want to sit down and talk w/ her and tell her how you feel and ask her if she is really being herself or fake to make you happy? Just make it clear that the only reason you pushed her so hard is b/c you luv her and didn't want to see her get hurt if you had anything to do with it

personaly...yes she should have been able to decide if she wanted to be a 'dork' or 'popular' just because you dress from those clothing stores doesnt make you the 'popular girl' thats cool that you didnt want her to be made fun of but how is she going to act if she does get made fun of she wont know what to do

well my opinion..
youve helped her get this far wich helped her as she is happy but now..leave her for abit
your right she does need to exsperience stuff by herself to get anywhere in life
as you cant be there 24/7
so let her have fun and do stuf for herself but let her know your there for her
best you can do for someone is be there realy
hope I helped good luck
( sorry for spellings )
x

I would have a talk with her and let her know: 'I realize I push you a little hard sometimes but I want you to know it's not because I'm trying to be mean or don't like you, I'm proud of you, I love you, and I just want you to be your best'...Take care !!

It's nice that you care so much, but it seems you're being a bit controlling, telling her how to act and dress. Ask her if she's comfortable with all this, and reassure her that you'll love her no matter what.