Divorce??

Is anyone divorced?? Tell me your story... If you are comfortable with that..

Is divorce a bad thing??

I know all marriages have problems.. But how much is too much fighting??

What constitutes a good marriage??

If god intended there to be...

one soul mate for people on earth, why are their so many divorces??

Why is it that people don't always get along??

If people are divorced what do you think the best way to share children is??
Is it un-stable for children to be passed back and forth between divorced parents??

Help.. Needing information..
Thanks

Divorce at first is the hardest thing ever to have to go through. It feels like you are ripping your arm or a leg off. If you have been with your husband for a long time it will be extremely hard. My ex wanted a divorce because we argued alll the time. He wouldn't seek counseling like I asked. He only wanted to blame me and he was perfect. So if you get counseling you will know what you should do because it helps to get your life in perspective. I did counseling for a year until the divorce went through. So ask yourself this: can I live like this another 5 years? If you answer no then you need a counselor and get your mind in a rational rather than emotional state. I know It was too hard for me to work through the divorce time. It is a time you can't see the end until it happens. I cried day and night I kid you not for 3 months straight. So if you are ready and you don't see your husband wanting to fix the problems you both have then go for it. If you have more questions I can answer them through fun mail.
Never fight in front of your kids. If you do, STOP! You are hurting them more than yourselves. Always try to get along for their sake. Try to be reasonable when you have to share time with your kids. So I just agree with my ex if he wants to keep her longer on some weekends. Sometimes you will want a break from your kids too. DON'T be selfish.
A good marriage is where you can tell the other person how you feel about something and not exploding. Your husband has to agree to be the same. Always try to give the benefit of any doubts and nicely discuss them don't blame. My hubby now and I have a great marriage because we joke alll the time. Pick your battles is what we live by. Nothing has to be a great deal. Everything is a small thing. All big things are small too. Don't fuss and use up energy on dumb fights. Know how to discuss things and not fight. If you get furious, walk away. Come back to the problem when you are fine and then discuss it.

Peace and Love,
Mama K