What dirty talk should I say to my boyfriend?

My boyfriend has gone away and hes been txting me dirty but I dont know what to say! what turns a boy on?

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# Be authentic in your dirty talk.
Dirty talk can feel silly if you expect it to be what you’ve seen in the movies. You might have this idea that dirty talk is something specific. But good dirty talk is completely what you make it, and to do it well, you have to be yourself. While you may take on a role in your dirty talk (e.g. the ravished submissive) you need to find something of yourself in the role. Make a list of different aspects of your personality you can draw on for inspiration.

# Find your dirty talk voice.
You need to find your own way of talking dirty. Your dirty talk might be low rhythmic grunts, high pitched squeals, or precise whispers. It might reflect the way you talk in your daily life, or it might express a different aspect of your personality. You don’t need to pick only one voice, the element of surprise can add an extra sense of anticipation, when your partner doesn’t know what they’re going to get an earful of next!

# Expand your dirty talk vocabulary.
Most of us are raised not to swear. Dirty talk is your opportunity to pull out all the stops on the foul mouth express. Unless you’re role playing calls for it, avoid clinical terms (like pen*s). If you’re at a loss, do some research. Both of the books recommended below have lists of words. But you can do research online, by reading some raunchy erotica, or in some cases watching porn (although the dirty talk in porn tends to be unimaginative).

# Practice dirty talk when you're alone.
Carol Queen, author of the highly recommended Exhibitionism for the Shy , suggests starting on your own, talking dirty while you mas*urba*e. Fantasize about having sex with your partner and talking dirty to them. You can start by doing it in your head, but eventually do it out loud.

# Establish ground rules with your partner.
One of the reasons many of us don’t talk dirty is fear of sounding ridiculous, or being put down or rejected by a partner. It’s important to set some rules when you’re willing to take risks like this. Rules like no laughing at one another, and no judgment are important. In the heat of the moment anything can come out of your mouth, and you need to know that your partner is respectful of the ways that can be exposing.

# Start slow the first time.
Don’t feel you have to rush right into elaborate verbal gymnastics. A great way to start with dirty talk is to describe out loud what is happening during sex. Things like “I love the way your hand feels in my….” Or “Your …feels so good on/in my…” Describe what’s happening and how it feels in your body. You can also experiment by telling your partner something you’re going to do to them, or something you want them to do to you.

# Experiment with your voice.
Most of us take for granted all the different things we can do with our voice, and the impact these changes have. Experiment with speed, how fast you talk. Some things call for a staccato barrage, while some things are best said slowly. Change the volume of your voice, try whispering, try screaming, try everything in the middle. Also play with the tenor of your voice. You can sound commanding and harsh, trembling and uncertain, and everywhere in between.

# Make dirty talking a two way conversation.
Once you’ve taken the risk and initiated talking dirty with your partner, ask them to do the same. It isn’t for everyone, and you might find that you like doing it more than hearing it (or vice versa). But being on the receiving and the giving end of dirty talk can give you a different perspective on it, plus you may learn a few things from your partner you didn’t already know.

DOES THIS HELP ?!

The best advice for dirty talk I ever heard came from a pornstar. You just say what you're doing and what you want to do. But don't make it too clinical.

Here at FunAdvice, we generally stick with the clinical terms for sexual acts and body parts because we're adults and we want to talk about the topic in an adult way. That's the rule [I follow in my book], too, but that's not necessarily how you and your man will want to talk in bed. You'll need to find out what works for both of you: "pen*s" and "vagina" or words that are a bit more down and dirty — which is exactly why they turn you on. If there are words that you just aren't comfortable hearing from your partner, share them with him, and invite him to do the same. If there are words that you find sexy, let him know that, too. Don't be afraid of admitting that you like saying or hearing certain things — dirty talk or "passion chat" can be a form of role play, and it can be good to experiment with different phrases or expressions to see if they heighten your sexual pleasure.

If you're having problems thinking of what to say or you're just too timid try the book "Bad libs: The Good Girl's Guide to Talking Dirty"
Here are some excerpts from the book: http://love.ivillage...

You can purchase the book from Amazon for $14.93:
http://www.amazon.co...

xox
Sika

you should text this: sex is just like church , you screm, holler, yell, shout, and clapp but through it all you are still comin'!
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