Is it off limits to date my friend's ex?

Ok.

I got asked out by my friend's (Josh) Ex-Girlfriend (Carly).

I have never been asked out before, so I said Yes. I found this out late in the school day, so know one knew. I am very good friends with Josh, and I knew Carly was his Ex but I did not...

think it was a big deal.

I find out the next day Josh is SO pissed off at me. Apparently there is some 'unwritten law' about not dateing a Friends Ex. Carly and Josh have not even made eye-contact in 6 months, so, I thought it would be fine. Besides, Josh does not own Carly, so I should not have to ask his permission to date her or w/e.

It is not his buisness who I date, and even though she is his Ex that should not matter at all. If he dosent care about her anymore, what is the big deal? If he did care for her, he had a long time to get back with her so to late for him.

The main problem is that he is upset with me, and calling her a Dyke, and saying that thinking of us together makes him sick , blah blah blah.

I just dont understand what the huge deal is!
He says I should have asked it was Okay with him if I dated her, to let him know.
Well sorry Josh when I tried to tell you, you were not at School or you were hiding form me. Besides, I was going to infrom you right away---not to ask if it was ok, just to say how excited I am to have a date or g/f for the 1st time ever!

I never thought it was a bad thing to do to date a Ex.
I thought it would not be the best of things, but I never knew it was this bad, personally I dont see I did a bad thing at all! He was not a good b/f too her anyways...

yes it is off limits. Me and my friends have that rule, it just saves alot of awkwardness and heart ache, even tho they rnt together anymore it just saves alot of dramas, esp since his ex is now with another girl, so im on his side sorry. You could have atleast spoken to him about it before saying yes to her, maybe thats why he is really pissed the fact that you didnt even speak to him about it 1st.

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I am the other girl!

I am dateing his Ex-Girlfriend.

He is upset with me since I did not 'ask him'. He does not own her, and it has been almost 6 months....

Yeah i got that you are the other girl! the right thing that you should have done to respect your friend is atleast tell this girl when she asked you out, i need to discuss it with josh 1st cos he is one of my good friends and atleast showed him that respect and said look josh, your ex gf asked me out and i wanted to dicuss it with you before i go any further becos i dont want to upset anyone, he would have respected you more instead of just doing wat you wanted not caring about the consequences, and it doesnt matter if its been 6 months, a year or 2 years, they still went out, she is still his ex, it just would have been nice if you considered his feelings.

His feelings shoudl have been gone by now...
And they are.

They hate eachother. So he should not care, he is more upset the fact I did not come to him first.

Since I decide to date her 6th hr, I told someoen we MIGHT be dateing online when I got home, that person told Josh the next ay before I even could tell him myself....