Dangerous crush

ok this seems really immature but hey I have a right to be immature. lol. OK heres my problem- there's this guy, or should I say 'man', he's 30 years old. but he's just like a kid, he's a snowboarder, skateboarder, he's absoloutly gorgeous...I'm almost 17 as of next month. I have a MAJOR crush on him...there's a catch though, he's married...AND he has two lovely kids. he's kind of none as to being a bit of a flirt with girls my age, but I know he loves his wife. I love his wife too, shes a great friend to me and a lot of girls in the group. this guy though, he came up to me on sunday and we talked for a while, at the end of the conversation I was about to leave and he asked me what I was doing this friday, I said nothing, he said his wife had to work late and he was wondeirng if id like to go snowboarding with him. I asked him if we'd take the kids (as I babysit for them a lot and thought maybe it was an outing for them) he said hed drop them off at his parents, and pick me up...OMG I was like YEAH! hes like awesome! I'll call you! im pretty sure his intensions are harmless but I cant help my feelings towrads him. and on friday I'll be with him alone all day, and I know myself! if I try make a move I'm pretty sure he wouldnt stop me...it's really confusing. I just want to make love to him, just thinking about it is making my horny for him. so HELP. is this really horrible? or is it ok? or what...

He is so going to use/abuse you that you have no idea. He will use you as a humping post and then throw you to the side. Do you really think he will give up his kids and wife for you? Come back to reality child...

almost 17, lol, your still a little girl. You don't want to get mixed up in that sort of thing, aim at guys your own age. It seems as if he guy has a good normal life, why try and wreck that for him. he's only 2 years from being twice your age. And you said his wife treats you very nice, why betray her. You appear to be very selfish, your thinking only about your needs. The guy has two kids and a wife. If something goes bad do you want them thinking of you as that sl*t who slept with daddy and broke up our family. Your a young girl, im sure you can find guys your own age, ones that will be able to give yu the time and attention you deserve, because a marries man with 2 kids won't be able to.

you are treading 'dangerous' waters... but you already know that. you just don't grasp how bad its going to hurt later. to answer your question, in my moral scope, this is NOT ok to do, but it is ok to fantasize about. you are going to do what you want, so if you are trying to get some sort of permission from the public, you won't find it here. if you are trying to get someone to talk you out of doing something completely damaging, funmail me. good luck.

STOP CRUSHING ON HIM RIGHT NOW!!!

well its not horrible but what would happen if you do make love and he leaves his wife and his children for you? its not bad to have a crush but making love would be a bit too far. you might break up a family. try to stick to boys/ men around your age. =D

Hey you are a teenager girl and you are growing up and you’re feeling also because that you don’t know how to control it. In this age you have to be more careful because you don’t know the difference between like and love. This man is so kind with you and care about you because he loves you but not the way you think sorry but it’s the truth “the truth always hurt” and you feeling this way because you don’t have someone to share this feeling with him. Moreover he is married and has kids “don’t destroy someone’s live”. Accept the truth it will be easy to live and try to control your feelings. Sorry

stay away from him

its reallly baddd wut your doing I cant believe wut I would do is just stop babysitting the kids, and not see him again you should that man alone,think about his wife and his 2 sons dont take him away from him...just leave him forgto about him find someone your own age hes way to old I know this dont matter but this really bad, I think this is an obssesion he might just want to use u, you know have sex wit you and then leave you BCAREFULLL dont do something you will regret later get away from him let him b happy wit his wife and 2 kids, if they end up divorcing they will HATE you just leave him and stop seeying him again your preety fine sumone your OWN AGE!!!
I hope this helped*!

he has a problem first of all your undr age 2nd hes married 3rd hes tooo old for you if he is doing this with you think how many others girls hes been with your age maybe even younger I mean you arent their only baby sitter

I already answered this on your other question but it seems that it got deleted. As I was saying this man is married meaning he found the woman he want to spend his life w/ even tho he doesnt act like it. I suggest to stop babysitting his kids and stop talking to him. Even if your 16 turning 17 it doesnt make a difference his tied up w/ a family you don't want to join and cause complicated issues not only to you but to his wife and kids aswell. Your still young enjoy it while you can.

Ok, you just wrote another question just before this about your boyfriend. You need to get your prioriities in order, because you cant even figure out what you want! This guy is married, which means HES OFF LIMITS. We will have many crushes in our lifetime, but that doesnt mean we act on those feelings. Get over this guy, and start acting like a girlfriend to your boyfriend, before he dumps you.

I was 15 turning 16 when I got involved with a married man, I was immature and stupid, and didnt realise the consiquences, it caused so much heart ache for every1 and so much pain!!, my advice would be STAY CLEAR! hes got a wife and children!!! I dont mean 2 b sound awful when I say this but, he would chew you up and spit you out in no time! do you really honestly think he would want 2 b with a kid? im sorry if I sound out of place but im speaking from experience!, because the married man did the exact same thing 2 me and I was 'heartbroken' as I've gto older, (im 18 now) I've realised how wrong and stupid I was!! and maybe I only had them feelings 4 him because I felt like I could talk 2 him and having the power to seduce him, it was so easy,so trust me! LEAVE IT AS A CRUSH! dont take it no further! and ask this man to take his kids with him!!! I hope you make the right choice!! and dont make the same mistakes as I did!!

thats terrible stop now and cancel your polans with him on friday

BRING IT BACK. Ok, it is the obvious he has some issues if he is hanging out with you like this, this to you may seem harmless but to him, this may be a whole different story, I would suggest breaking it off, before something happens that is not suppose to happen. :] good luck.

don't do it its crazy he wont treat you right one he is MARRIED two Kids and three INTRESTED IN YOUNGER GIRLS ok well hoped I helped cancel your plans with him friday

I doubt he thinks its harmless... he's asking you out alone without the kids? Please...
I'm not the morality police, do what you want. But don't expect this to go anywhere... He's not going to leave his wife. Whatever you do dont fall in love

ok, so you have really strong feelings for him, which happens a lot with people. however, you KNOW it can't work and youKNOW it would cause a lot oof pain. We all make mistakes, terrible ones, when we follow our emotions, not our logic. Emotions have a cycle, if you fall into the cycle, it goes like this:
you do what you think will feel best
it feels amazing
things go wrong, you fall until you hit rock bottom (or just fall way below how youstarted with)
you stay down for a while, and regret takes over
youfind something else to feel good with

please, I know your feelings are intense for this man, but you know it would only be destructive. find something to fulfill your feelings with something else,not a committed man. good luck,I hope I helped!

heres the thing...I KNOW hes not in love with me, and doesnt want to 'be with me' but somehow I dont care...and the more 'out of bounds' he seems...the more I seem to want him!!! =| just want to have a day with him an do it with him even just once!! I dont want or expect him to leave his wife for me

This is a classic crush. You already know its not a good idea to do anything about it and I know that must kill you seeing as though to you these feelings are so very real. being your age is a very confusing time for you. Your hormones are running rampant in your body and even though you think you really love this guy and want to have relations with him its not a good idea. Those little girls that you look after and love could have their lives ruined if there mum finds out something has happend and it may already be obvious to her that you have feelings for him. You might not think your showing anything for him when she is around but women pick up on these things. We were your age too once. I think you may have to distance yourself from him as hard as this will be because this is a no win situation. The more you hang around the more you will like him. By distancing yourself you may be able to find something else to take your mind of him. Once again I know how hard this is going to be for you and you will proberbly shed a lot of tears but this is your hormones making things worse as well. Try to be brave because you know what? Its not going to be the last crush you have. There will be lots of boys to get a crush on and lots of heartbreak as well as happiness before you find the man of your dreams. Good luck and im here if you want to chat. Mel

I think that is HORRIBLE! This is another women's husband you are talking about. I'm sure you wouldn't want someone doing that to your husband. I'm sorry if I seem a little harsh but this id just wrong. Don't do it. It is clearly NOT innocent. In time you will meet someone your own age. Just stay away from him.

Haha, that's pretty funny. Dude is almost twice your age.