Dad left everything to baby brother

How would you feel if you had taken care of your cancer ridden father, he dies and leaves everything he owned to your baby brother? I am the only daughter, and I have another brother thats next to me. I am the oldest also. I am devestated.

... I would be pissed...

Thanks, I am pissed! My baby brother hasn't called me and my brother now since Christmas. I guess he's figured out that we got a copy of the will. To make things worse, he has the most materialistic wife you have ever met. I just can't believe this, it is really starting to control my life, I'm just eat up with anger all the time now.

I know yo probably don't want ot hear this but there is nothing your anger is going to solve it just means he gets to hurt you more so you really have to try to let it go I can certainly understand how you feel I would be just as mad and hurt for awhile but then I would stop and think that is all they are going to get from me,if someone calls to tell you something about it just say I can't listen to it and hang up I have been there not to this extreme but I have been so angry that I wanted to rip someones head off literally.hope this helps

I know how you feel I grew up with my grandparents as my mom moved further and futher away every year and when she came over it seeemed she couldn't wait to leave I had no one to play with growing up only once in a great while I would get to go to my mom but most of the time I was onlyable to here they went here and there with out me I had lots of resentment toward my mom and then when my grandfather passed away they too gave everything to my mom someone who didn't even want to be around but I know I caused my grandparents problems that was a result of feeling rejected but These last years I've been in a christian church and I've been learning to leave everything in Gods hands and trust in him to provide for my future and he's also helping heal from those hurts and I think The Lord Jesus Christ is the only one who can bring that healing and peace to are hearts

Okay. I am sorry you are greiving and this may be a bit harsh. Reality is the youngest may need a headstart and you were born in 1962. He would've probably believed you'd be solvent enough to make a living and keep going. The youngest may need a jumpstart and that is very likely why this was done. Not because he didn't care about you or the next one after you. Just that parents want the youngest to be able to survive. Don't take it so hard. I wouldn't be upset if my dad left everything to my youngest brother. I am solvent enough to make a living. My young brother would most likely need more of a secure future (example: college or a place to call his own).

can you not contest the will? I would consult a lawyer and see what your rights are. that is so not fair but at least it didnt all get left to the family dog or cat ! if it was me that was left the money I would share it evenly with my sisters...

Ok, well yes I would be mad, but also, Maybe he was just in a time of state where all he could think about was your baby brother>? Maybe...? Ask your mom, or someone close to him about it, they may be able to give you logical reasoning! :]

I understand how you must feel, I would be very upset myself. but you said that your borther had a materialistic wife, just rememind yourself that you dont want to be like her. If it was in his will, there really is nothing you can do about it legally. If you are the one who payed for his medical though you may want to plead to your brother for some compensation.

Thanks guys! Since my brother hasn't called to even discuss the will, it's time to call him on the carpet (so to speak). He's had the heads up all of his life, its my turn and it's definetely my other brothers turn! I'll let you know what happens!

I would be pretty angry I am havent we crossed the face of boys are god's gift and girl's devil's, but its still not your brother's fault I mean he's still a baby and moving to court is a good choice but even if you win the court case you have to take care of your brother no matter what but you still can get a job and earn your own money so you can supply yourself with some stuff I mean you still need to live right...

he's not a baby he's 42