"cyberstalking"? come on, really?

Ok, here's the deal: There's this woman whom I used to be in a band with, who is trying to create a scenario to accuse me of cyberstalking her. She's always the victim and thinks that I am the only person alive who dislikes her. The fact is, there are...

probably a couple hundred people who can't stand her or her husband. This whole thing began when SHE responded to a comment that I left for some friends, where she made the post all about HER. I was wishing some former bandmates a good summer, etc., and repeated a humorous suggestion I heard about putting together a tribute band. She posted a reply, publiclly accusing me of writing a horrendous email about her and her husband to some club on the other side of the state. 100% FALSE. I had nothing to do with this email, but she accused me and there it is.

Now she has me on her Google Alerts and I guarantee she is reading this right now. She is basically cyberstalking ME in order to try to say that I am cyberstalking HER! It's bloody madness, I tell you. She's communicating things about me to other people that are totally false. Her husband even drunk-dialed me at 3 in the morning, threatening me. (The police know about the call.)

So all of this background to ask, who is cyberstalking who? And come on...is it really cyberstalking if you give an honest opinion about something or someone in a public forum? I think it's a simple excercising of one's 1st Ammendment right to free speech. It's FREE speech! Just because one doesn't agree with it, doesn't make the speech less FREE, or make it cyberstalking, does it???

It's not slander nor is it libel. What's slanderous is sharing with people that so-and-so is a dirty cop. Or saying someone is litigation-happy. It's all just a big mess.

Sorry for the length of the question. The situation is complicated, so background was needed. Long live the First Ammendment!

(Did I answer my own question? LOL!)

Okay, hmm... what is it that makes her think you are cyberstalking her? Because by the sounds of it she's the one chasing you around, getting into your business. It's really strange how people just twist things around sometimes. If you want to post in a forum you have all the rights to, as does she, but her bringing up your past on a forum that has nothing to do with it seems pretty odd. It sounds like this woman cant get enough of you and loves to just be in your business, quite creepy. I guess she doesn't have enough excitement in her life so she feels the need to cyberstalk you. I can see why her husband is a drunk, she probley drove him to it.
Ah, good luck with this, I really don't know what to say.

Thanks, Stephanie. I should make one *CORRECTION* here: I should not have said her husband drunk-dialed me. Let's just say that I 'think' there was alcohol involved because no average person would call someone at 3:02 in the morning, huffing and puffing at someone. (That, and they had a gig in a bar that night.) So, since I know that they are printing everything I post in public forums, I am making this voluntary edit. He's NOT a drunk. He 'may' have been at the time, but I don't believe he has a problem with alcohol. So I really shouldn't make assumptions here, because that's what she did to me that got this whole thing started. She wrongly assumed I was the person who wrote the email to the club. I shouldn't assume he was drunk.

Thanks again!

(This correction brought to you by Google Alerts. )

lol, google alerts? what exactly is that and why the hell is it legal?

uhm call a lawyer... the woman sounds crazy...

Google Alerts are email updates of the latest relevant Google results (web, news, etc.) based on your choice of query or topic.

http://www.google.com/alerts

It's what she uses to keep tabs on me. I'm not sure what you meant by your question, why the hell is it legal?

why is it legal for someone to be able to keep tabs on stuff you do...

That's a good question, Ty. One I don't really have an answer for. Basically, you can go to google.com/alerts and put any keywords or key phrases you want, and google will email you, often times daily, any results on the web pertaining to your search criteria. The woman I refer to in my initial question is definitely using this and has told google to send her an email anytime it detects my username, MichiganHitman anywhere on the internet. If there is such a thing as cyberstalking, this would be a good example of someone doing the cyberstalking--NOT someone who is the 'object' of a cyberstalker. And I guarantee she's reading all of this right now, thanks to our friends at Google. Otherwise, she would have to stay up all hours of the night, manually searching for my posts online--which I'm sure she also does. I think it drives her nuts, but probably enjoys it, all at the same time. Again, my opinion.

This page, and anything else from michiganhitman, I am sure has been printed and is sitting in a manilla folder somewhere in her house--although I'm not really sure of the point here.

Another bit of info: My daughter joined a family-friendly social networking website, and because she's new to the whole scene, she didn't know what to put as her username. For lack of a better idea, she decided to use MichiganHitman! Of course, I wasn't too happy with this--especially knowing that someone is keeping tabs on this username. This could have implications down the road, but so far it hasn't been an issue.

Thanks for writing, Ty.

lol, sorry it got off topic, I was just curious, hmm well I suppose maybe you could just change your user name and that would be the end of it...

That's probably a good idea. I'll have to give that one some thought. It's tough because many know me as 'michiganhitman', but it's no big deal. How about phatcnt-h8r? LOL