How to stop cutters?

how do you help someone realize they do not deserve the pain they cause themselves?

What do people who feel suicidal want?

Someone to listen. Someone who will take time to really listen to them. Someone who won't judge, or give advice or opinions, but will give their undivided attention.

Someone to trust. Someone who will respect them and won't try to take charge. Someone who will treat everything in complete confidence.

Someone to care. Someone who will make themselves available, put the person at ease and speak calmly. Someone who will reassure, accept and believe. Someone who will say, 'I care.'

What do people who feel suicidal not want?

To be alone. Rejection can make the problem seem ten times worse. Having someone to turn to makes all the difference. Just listen.

To be advised. Lectures don't help. Nor does a suggestion to 'cheer up', or an easy assurance that 'everything will be okay.' Don't analyze, compare, categorize or criticize. Just listen.

To be interrogated. Don't change the subject, don't pity or patronize. Talking about feelings is difficult. People who feel suicidal don't want to be rushed or put on the defensive. Just listen.

I dont know if you can stop a cutter...
I know you think they dont deserve the pain they cause themselves, but sometimes that pain is what gets them through whatever emotional pain they are feeling...
And it seems (to the cutter) that you dont care about their emotional pain, you just dont want to see cuts or bleeding...
Its complicated when a person cuts... its not as simple as 'you deserve better than this life you're leading', so stop... you have to understand why they cut...
And sometimes they think they deserve the punishment...

No cutting is never the right option, but try and understand where they are coming from, and try and get them help from people who have been trained to deal with these issues...

You can be there, and be supportive, but dont take it personally when they do what the do... cutters are really just trying to cope and survive...

Cutters are not suicidal maniacs!
Cutter dont want to die ! Thats a fact otherwise they would not be full of scars from previous attempts.
Cutters are lonely or just feel pretty low and have low self esteem. They just want to be noticed and taken care of its a cry for help.

I have worked with many people who cut themselves religously, we know they dont want to kill themselves its an escape for them, often they feel that they are bad! and so they think if they bleed themselves the bad will come out of their body through the blood.
Some times they use any sharp instrument to cut with and ofen are left with jagged unclean nasty cuts that become infected.
You know the NHS give heroin addicts new needles to inject with, well they also give cutter new blades to cut with! This is for their benefit, to prevent AIDS, Hepatitis and serious infections

I dont think you really can...people who cut usually know that they shouldnt be doing this to themselves and feel terrible so be careful with what you say to them as it may make them do it more.

You need to let the person who's hurting themself know that there are people out there that care about them,including you, offer to take them to a therapist or to a counselor,then see what you can accomplish.