Confused? together or not?

So, I have been dating this guy for eight months. Half of our relationship has been long distance. I moved across the country but he came and visited. He use to show he cares so much, and then he started saying I didn't care, but I have always cared. Lately, now he does not call, barely writes back and shows no emotions at all. Does he still love me? I just couldn't imagine this is not going to work out. We fought a lot, but always stayed with each other. Plan was he would move here, now he is saying he can't and that I would have to move back,and I told him I don't want to, and he says it isn't going to work then. This is so hard..

Your letter is very sad, but let me to write you that 'long distance' usually leads to this situation what you described. First the pain of the parting just intensify all the emotions, and the time and distance extinguish everything. I think you should look for an other b/f, at least for an interim one. Usually the environment is stronger then the image of the faraway person.

Sometimes, things just don't work out the way you plan them to. Especially when it is a long distance relationship. I agree with bubox007 in that it breaks relationships apart, because your not constantly reminded of why you love them. he makes new friends, you make new friends, and then he'll probably start lying to you or cheating on you. you would do better with a closer b/f Best of luck
homestar_runner3

Hun you just need to accept the fact that he is trying to give you the brush off but doesnt want to live with the guilt of breaking your heart, so he is turning it around on you saying you dont care and acting distant and cold so you break up with him. Guys do that because they are panzies! lol try and see the brighter side to things, atleast you worked out sooner rather than later that he isnt willing to make this work like you want to, so its time to let him go and move on. If you are meant to be together in the future everything happens for a reason and you may end up together, or he was just one to not care as much as you do. You'll find a great guy hun, give it some time.

Thanks you guys! He called today, and told me how much he loves and to never forget that. He says he's been doing this because as soon as he started really showing his feelings for me, I started to pull away, and I guess I can see how he thought that because I did act a lot different. So we are working things out and I am hopefully visiting there after Christmas!

I am in the same situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Let me tell you that year was the most wonderful, till the day he left pheonix, and went to flagg staff for college. And we always argue over the phone over dumb stuff.!!! But we still manage to be together, just follow your heart. But don't stay in a relationship if you are unyhappy

Always,
Amanda

Okay first of all... Long distance relationships Personally...I think are not ever going to work because when you think about it Men will always be men and what do men think about every 3 seconds? SEX SEX SEX and more SEX so if your not personally living with him and you guys have been dating for so long and he lives in another place I think for sure he has been with somebody else, I know its really hard to accept no matter how much you think he loves you and cares, The unfiltered reality is, is that He is a man and MEN are ruthless and If they are showing you they dont care it usually means that they dont they are not complex creatures and The sign you 'think you see' are probably the truth and take it as you see it cause if hes not willing to put in commitment towards you and then shouldnt either.

if I were you I would tell him to go suck himself in a corner and find someone else.