Confused, alone and miserable

I split up with my girlfriend after 3 years and have no idea what to do with myself I am a recovering agoraphobic and she was sexually assaulted at the age of 13 so we both had issues, and we fixed some of my problems together. I attempted to help her many times but she refused to let me and so I didn't try anymore. She believes I wont cope without sex until marriage and believes that I only tried to help for selfish reasons. Admittedly it has been hard to go without being a horny teen but I've coped so far, and I would never have pressured her into anything. Now she wont even look at me because she says I betrayed her by talking to her mum about her problems and because her mum said she is lying about the assault to get some attention I have messed it up completely. Everybody tells me there is no hope, and we'll never get back together but after seeing her almost everyday for the past 3 years I cant just give up. Should I keep trying to call her, because if I quit she'll never talk to me again and even if she wont date me I still want to talk to her and if possible to help her.

Well firstly try telling her that you only spoke to her mum about her problems because you care about her. If that doesn't work then there isn't a great deal you can do.. try giving her some space for a while and she might come round.

Go out with your friends or get another girlfriend to take your mind off things... you seem like you care for this girl a lot, but if she can't see it then it's her loss.

In a few weeks tell her that your here for her & if she needs your help she can turn to u, but don't try too much as you may push her away even more.. just give her a bit of space and see what happens.

well, try getting her in person but alone. tell her how you feel and that you are sorry, if you really love her which it pretty much sounds like you do. jsut tell her, look. we ahve been together for three years and im not gonan give up on you. I still lvoe you and I wish you felt the same, we ahve a connectiona dn we were both really there for eachother. I cant make you love me again... and I cant make you talked to me, but I can keep trying and thats what I am going to do beacsue I love you. if she doesnt realize that you really love her a lot and that you deserve a chance....then keep trying. thats ponly if you love her though. :-)

well, try getting her in person but alone. tell her how you feel and that you are sorry, if you really love her which it pretty much sounds like you do. jsut tell her, look. we ahve been together for three years and im not gonan give up on you. I still lvoe you and I wish you felt the same, we ahve a connectiona dn we were both really there for eachother. I cant make you love me again... and I cant make you talk to me, but I can keep trying and thats what I am going to do beacsue I love you. if she doesnt realize that you really love her a lot and that you deserve a chance....then keep trying. thats only if you love her though. :-)

Ok it was wrong of you to confide in her mother about your personal problems, talk to mates or your parents but not hers, she feels betrayed, esp if her mum didnt know about the problems between you both until now. what you need to do now is respect her choice and what she is saying to you know, give her some space to let her feelings of anger towards you pass, she may come to find she misses you or it could turn out breaking up was the best thing for her, either way you need to let her work it out for herself. Still call every once in a while to let her know you still care and miss her, but dont pressure her into telling you what she feels becos she prob doesnt even know.
Even if the whole sexual assault story was a lie for attention, you still betrayed her trust, and if it is a lie she has betrayed your by lying to you, maybe you should just let it rest for a while, it may be the best thing.

Dont give up on her, thats the one thing you shouldnt do. If you love her or care about her, don't bail. Shes just hurt. Just keep trying to prove yourself to her. That would mean more to her than anything if she cares just as much as you do.