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Why are we constantly fighting?

Asked by andreanicole about 1 year ago, 3 answers.

Me and my boyfriend have only been together for about a month now but I don't think there has been one day where we haven't fought. Whenever I tell him I feel he gets mad at me and I don't understand. He yells at me when I cry because I am scared of losing him and tells me to stop stressing but I how can I if I am always worried about him leaving me? He started telling me he loves me. There are good things about him but I dont cant get over the bad. We already broke up once and we got back together so I know he cares about me and truly wants to make this work.

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Answered by naomir on May 18, 2007, 09:28AM
| 13 answers.

Can I ask how old you both are?

If you're in a relationship where you're arguing daily after such a short space of time I think its time for you both to evaluate exactly how suited you are to each other. Anyone who shouts at you when you're crying isn't worth being in your life. When you're upset, no matter what the cause a partner should be there to support you, hold your hand if that's what you need or just give you a hug. Shouting at you is not acceptable.

I think, from the way you talk, that you also might benefit in some confidence therapy. Learning a little more about yourself may help you to understand what's going wrong in the relationship.

Remember, there is nothing wrong with being single, if anything it just allows you to be free for the 'right' relationship when it comes along.

Answered by angelfire2708 on May 18, 2007, 10:16AM
| 4567 answers.

I agree with naomir> You have only been together for a month. If he treats you like that already hun...you've got major problems!!
**Every couple has arguments. But if your arguments are over stupid things, it generally means the relationship isn't the best. When the two of you feed off of each others attitude and make life difficult for others, that is another sign that you should end the relationship. If it doesn't make you happier, feel better, and content, it's not worth having.**

When you meet your emotional needs, you are more likely to make a love relationship work.

Ever heard about how it's hard for someone to love you when you don't love yourself? It's a big relationship roadblock when one or both people struggle with self-esteem problems. Your boyfriend isn't there to make you feel good about yourself if you can't do that on your own. Focus on being happy with yourself, and don't take on the responsibility of worrying about someone else's happiness.

What if you feel that your boyfriend needs too much from you? If the relationship feels like a burden or a drag instead of a joy, it may be time to think about whether it's a healthy match for you. Someone who's not happy or secure may have trouble being a healthy relationship partner.
The key to a healthy relationship is communication...you can be happy, sad, angry, joyful, you can own all these feelings but what you do with them can make or break a relationship. What ever the feeling is you cannot expect your significant other to read your mind... you can tell him/her using 'I' messages in a non threatening way as a means of communicating what is wrong and very important here..what is RIGHT...so often we complain about what is wrong but fail to celebrate what is right.....
In a relationship, two people should be constantly growing....together...they should be sharing ideas, hopes dreams....the hope is that you grow parallel and not apart....and everyone needs his or her own space....if you are emotionally happy you will not be threatened by your partner needing time away or from asking for time for yourself,

If theperson you are dating loses his/her temper a lot and always blame you for things, This is a sign that your relationship is unhealthy.
In a healthy and safe relationship, each person takes responsibility for his or her feelings and actions. You should never have to worry about getting yelled at by your friend or dating partner, and you shouldn't be blamed for everything that goes wrong in his or her life.

Being mean can be a form of emotional abuse. If you're having doubts about your relationship, talk to someone you trust about it. Sometimes having an outsider's perspective is helpful. Many couples work through their issues, but it takes hard work and commitment from both people. And sometimes, as hard as it can be, it's best to throw in the towel and recognize your relationship might be more trouble than it's worth.

What does it look like when a man ISNT showing you the love?
~He doesn't treat you like you're a top priority in his life
~He's nice to you mainly when it's convenient for him (like right before sex)
~He checks out on you emotionally for long periods of time, and acts like you're crazy and/or needy for wondering why
~He's openly critical of fundamental things about you that you can't change
~He seems to enjoy your company, but it's as though he hasn't decided that you're the special woman in his life
~He shuts you out of big parts of his real world and inner life
~He keeps telling you that he's not good relationship material, but he doesn't discourage you from sleeping with him
~He takes no emotional risks for you, but doesn't object when you take emotional risks for him
~He gets irritated with the vulnerability you feel in the relationship.

Answered by clealuira on Jan 14, 2008, 07:54AM
| 36 answers.

You are too emotionally dependant on him. If you continue with this relationship you will face much worse problems in the future I assure you.

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