What do I do about the affair I had?

I HAD AN AFFAIR WITH A MARRIED GUY, I DON'T KNOW HOW TO LET IT GO, IT'S JUST HARD IF YOU WORK ON THE SAME PLACE, I WANT TO WIN HIM BACK BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW, AND ITS WRONG, WHAT DO I DO? I DO CARE ABOUT HIM A LOT
AND I'M GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE RIGHT NOW.......

Win him back? you never had him! he is married, its time to let it go and the only possible way you can truly move on is to not see him everyday, meaning ask for a transfer if you can or look for a new job so you dont have to see him at work so you can let it go once and for all!

Hi...

I've been there and courting with the opposite sex in the workplace can be risky, especially of this nature. If he is aligned with your immediate work arena, you will only struggle that much more to overcome this. If that's the case, definitely let your supervisor know that you'd like to request a transfer and make it appear it's for whatever job related reasons you can think up. Many firms have no tolerance for fraternization and behavior of the like.

Since this man is married, QUICKLY removing yourself from him emotionally is wise. Try not to let your personal feelings modify your logic or working relationship with him until you can either overcome this or make a move. Just be aware of how serious this could affect your livelihood if you allow it to, and make whatever changes needed to protect your income and reputation. I hope I've been some help, and good luck.

Paula

I am in the same situation. Had an affair with a married man from work. Things blew up and I got divorce papers and he bailed. His wife found out but took him back. He is still with her and is avoiding me totally. I want to approach him, but I know it is wrong. I guess if the things he told me were really true and that he loved me and wanted to be with me .. then he would of stayed with me. I'm so confused ............