Can i win my girl back?

I have lost the person i love the most in the world. I treated her like Crap. I dont mean i ever hit her or abused her cos im not violent. But after my dad died in January i sunk into depression, i stopped talking to her, causing silly arguments,...

sometimes over nothing, i made her feel left out and insecure about herself. i never hugged her, kissed her in public or anything nice like that. we split up once and i begged her to come back which she did, but a week later i was the same, an asshole! now it's been a month and i realise what a idiot i've been. i truly feel she's the one and now i think ive lost her for good. ive picked myself up from my depression but the only thing missing is this girl who has only been good to me. if i could have her back i know 100% that it would be different, but she says she's terrified it will happen again.
What do i do? do i keep fighting to get her back or try to move on from my broken heart that was my fault? i dread her meeting someone else.
Jon_boy

Well... speaking from experience, it doesn't mean much when a guy says It'll be different this time because 95% of the time... it might be good for a few days, but then the guy goes back to his old ways. So... if someone was to tell me they had changed 100%, I honestly wouldn't believe a word of it. Actions speak MUCH louder than words. We can't talk to your ex... only you can. Why not try telling her what you just typed out in your question? Don't just tell her you'll make it better, give her reasons for your behavior. It's hard to say, it may be a consequence that you just have to learn from, or she might choose to give it another shot. Don't wallow in self-pity if you HONESTLY feel that you're not depressed, and you can be good to her again. If that's really how you feel about it all, then go try your hardest to get her back again. Just saying though, something like that will leave a little scar... if you feel there's a chance you may get depressed again, save her the pain and don't get back together with her.

There's no way you can prove you've changed. SHE has to BELIEVE that you've changed; and that's all up to her. You can't pursue her any longer. You have to move on, and make NO attempts to try and get her back.

You don't have to avoid her or be inhospitable, you just need to stop trying to get her back. [/catonastringtheory]

just try not being an asshole... prove her wrong... stay there.. dont get pissed if she doesnt believe u... these ppl are too negative man... dont listen to them.. just try and try... til she tells u... im never gonna go back with u.

just try not being an asshole... prove her wrong... stay there.. dont get pissed if she doesnt believe u... these ppl are too negative man... dont listen to them.. just try and try... til she tells u... im never gonna go back with u.

Too negative? Sometimes the truth hurts. You just gotta learn from it all.