Came here to help, end up need some as well!

ok lets c, I know this girl in my french class, who was a sorority girl and well I don't date sorority girls, she quit and she just got out of an engagement, where the guy thought she was too independant and not much of a lady, or so he thinks, she's cute, funny, very vocal, and me and her have kind of a friends/tease type of relationship, now I dunno whether or not I should approach her as more than a friend, because the deal is I'm going to c her almost everyday in french, and if I get shot down, which I don't think has a high likelyhood, but still if I get shot down I'm going to have to face her day in day out, and I don't want it to affect our friendship, hard to believe that I have helped out every one of my friends in these situations but me myself I don't trust my own advice, I need confirmation.........

I'm not shy by any means, very outgoing and am very eloquent in person. I was thinking to go out and hang out with her and subtly bring it up??? but then again I don't even know if she's into someone........and definitely I don't want to give her the notion that I'm going to go that route until I hit her with it, because I want this to come spontaneous, I don't want to give her much of a reaction time...........boom boom boom..........and just get it over with, you know???? so help a brotha out..........thanks a lot.......PeAz

It is simple: in an approprate situation ask her that if she saw a chance of that she and you will have something more than friendship between you 2, once in the future. If she answer a definite "NO", than do answer that "OK", and step forward to and other topic. If she says something indefinite than tell her that you feel also indefinite, but then you can start to work on building up an other realationship. Time to time you may check this quenstion again, but not every day or week (!). If you had an answer "yes"..then do not run away...if she started a detailed conversation on this topic than do assure her that you will always respect her "independent nature". And do that ! )

Independant or not, eventually everyone has a need for someone else. That being said, it may be sort of soon for her. If I were you, I would build a strong friendship with her, eventually, as you get closer, you can find out what you need to know from her simply by asking. Then, if eventually you two get into a strong relationship, there should be no problem in asking.

well, c here's the problem I only c her in class, because being a pre-med student in my senior yr of college I'm extremely busy with medical school applications, the thing is I might c her in the next french that I take but I don't want to be lingering hope on a relationship more than a friend if there isn't a chance, but that being said, we both barely get to hang out, because of our schedules, I'm going out on the weekend and maybe if she's free we'll go out to the clubs or bars as friends, and then lets c what toll it takes..........thanks from trying though..........both of my moves have solid confirmation now, well atleast confirmation from others who c this as a third party problem.........

thanks again

Ask her what she usually does during the weekend or other free-days and try to find a neutral situation how you could meet....then as I wrote you above..