Boyfriends crying

Im the boyfriend lol... well before I met her I hadnt cried in like YEARS, but after I fell in love with her I cry over certain things... like I was on the phone with her and I was telling her how I am afraid that I might hurt her one day, and it was...

making me cry really bad, which was making her cry, then sometime later I asked her if she would look into my eyes more because she always looked away like immediately... she said she just gets nervous and scared and is sry... a couple days later she told be it was because of her step dad of long ago (whom she had told me all about which also made me cry) who abused her, that he would make her look into his eyes before he beat her, I was so glad she did this in person... all I could do was immediately grab her and pull her close hold her tight and just cry... one simple sentence well you know jace made me look into his eyes before he beat me... and I was balling my eyes out... F*CK typing this is making me cry... and sometime later she was talking about how they are poor compared to me and im like your not poor... (thinking she had been at this state her entire life...mistake) so I was like you dont know the meaning of poor because my family started out with like me 2 people under 20 and low paying jobs... my parents would go like days w/o eating justso I could eat... and she was like we had nothing at all like we lived in a box because of jackass jace (plus other things...) and again just held her tight and cried... this time she was like sry... shouldnt have brought that up... ... so I guess my question is... do women like it when their mate CAN cry? orwould they rather have him seem tough and rigid and slightly emotionless...? I like it when she cries but I also dont like it because it makes me feel kinda bad... but she cries over much smaller things than I could cry over... I had a really bad day at work one time... like my car completely died... my co-workers were more asses than usual, like they were throwing sh*t into my face for fun... after work I went to see her because I really just needed to hold her/be held by her... but after I left because I could only stay for like 10 mins... her friend was texting me ya... she crying now just because you had a bad day... and I was like AWWW dont cry you made it so much better... im not depressed anymore I really needed u... so again do women like it better when their mate cries over them?

from a guys point of veiw ... yes lol but I dunno you'd have to ask a girl. my only advice is that you cry but not too much, let her know you're sensative but not an emotional wreck. make sure you cry when you need to but be ready to be strong when she needs you more.

This varies from woman to woman. No girl will like to see her partner cry; unless they are tears of joy or she id down-right evil, lol. Women like a guy who is in touch with his emotions. If that leads him to crying, then that is no concern. Women like guys who don't hold back. Of course they wouldn't like a guy who was crying and whining all the time, but they do want their partner to be able to open up and be himself.

I hadn't cried in about 10 years at one stage and then some relationship issues put an end to the drought. It is normal to cry and we all get a little bit overwhelmed at times. So long as you cry for a reason and you are being yourself, your partner will appreciate the fact that you aren't holding back. No girl wants to see her partner sad, but like to be there for when her boyfriend is sad. When my girlfriend cries, I hold her and reassure her and make sure that she knows everything is alright.

There is no need to feel as of your crying is a burden for her. She obviously cares about you and if she were to think your crying was misplaced, then that would be a bit of a set-back. Crying is natural for both sexes. We males don't have tears in our eyes by chance. When the going gets tough it is natural to show some emotion and most girls will not look down on you for that. A lot of them feel comforted in that they will feel as if their partner is on the same level as them (if they tend to cry every now and then, which your partner does). No need to worry here mate !

I dont cry much... its only when she brings up that jace guy... it just makes me feel so horrible that she ever had to go thru being abused... im glad I was there for her when one of my friends who was being a complete d*ck was like I don't know if I can be friends with you any more all you do is try to keep me from shayla (to her and she knew shayla way better than he did and was pretty sure she was gonna break his heart) but she ran outta the bowling alley... it took me a few secs to catch up to her... and she just couldnt stop crying over it andd I just held her and was like wtf derek why... I didnt want to say anything because I knew nothing was gonna help... I felt like saying everything will be alright but I had no f*ing clue... and I dont lie to her so I didnt say that, I wanted to say screw derek ill beat the hell outta him for this, but im not a violent person so I didnt say that... in the end I didnt say anything... I just made it clear that I wasnt enjoying it but that I WAS there and will always be there for her

You got good advice there, from my experience, girls accept when you cry now and then if you can also show your strong side.

But things will get better and that is why she can be reassured. I know it feels so bad to think about your partner going through such traumatic times (I can definitely relate to that). What you need to do as her partner is be there not just in general, but to help her take the necessary steps to move on in life. I know that domestic violence leaves scars, but if you can help her to move on you can make those scars a lot smaller.

I understand that your girlfriend is a sensitive person and talking about this may make both of you sad, but it would not only strengthen your relationship, it would help her as an individual if you could get that terrible person out of her mind. She might be 'over it', but just make sure . You are quite obviously a very caring person and from what you've typed up I would see no reason for you to be concerned about your emotions. You care for your girlfriend and you feel her pain and try always to be there to help. If you cry, it is a clear indicator of how much you care. Like you said, you don't do it excessively, so no need to worry about that.

As for saying there was nothing you could do to help, that was wrong. You actually did help her. You comforted her and gave her a shoulder to lean on and that can do more good then you might imagine. Feeling alone makes things worse and you prevented that from happening, so good on you! Even though seeing her sad will get you a bit emotional, keep your mind about you. Tell her that issues with friends come up all the time and that eventually things get better.

Just remember that reassurance does help and even if you might be a bit cynical about it at times, it never hurts to be there to help someone to look on the bright side. Hope you two go really well !

damn I wish my boyfriend could be a little more sensitive
I am a girl I NEVER cry my moms boyfriend beat me I have scars on my shoulders and back as well as my legs just from him
and I have scars on my wrist
he said I was stupid for cutting my wrist
he doesn't know the full story about my moms boyfriend dwight but I do wake up sometimes scared and confused and he would help me calm down but he doesn't seem that emotional about it but I still love him