Boyfriend has cancer

In any other circumstance, I would talk to my boyfriend about this- or even a friend or family, but I can't because I'm home alone and everyone is out or gone. And my boyfriend's in the hospital. Last night we were hanging out alone and I asked him what...

was wrong, I could tell something was up. That was when he told me he found out he has leukemia, and that the doctors caught it really late and aren't sure there's much they can do. I've heard a lot about how treatable leukemia is, but I don't want to have false hope- he told me they have told him he may not have a very long time depending on how he reacts to treatments they can give him because it is so advanced already. I was heartbroken. I have known him for 16 years, and been with him for 2- he is the love of my life. I knew he was extremely upset about having to tell me this in the first place, so I tried not to cry too much and forced myself to stay as positive as I could the rest of the evening. But now that I am home and alone, I can't stop crying. If anyone has some short term advice until my boyfriend gets home or one of my friends gets home, I would greatly appreciate it. I'm a wreck and devastated and I don't know what I am going to do, but I hate being all alone and I want to stay strong for my boyfriend but I am falling apart. Help please. Sorry this is so long, I have nowhere to turn to right now.

Dealing with sickness is especialy hard. There aren't many words that can be said right now to confort you because you are going to have to go through all the motions brought upon dealing with an illness like cancer. What I can tell you is that you are not alone and many people have gone through some sort of ordeal or loss of someone they love. That is why opening up to people can really help us deal with illness and death. There is a chance that he might overcome his illness but there also is a chance that he will die from it. I know people who have been able to survive cancer and others that have died from it. I think we all have own ways of dealing but in the end talking about it with friends, family and your boyfriend is the best way to go through this. You are very brave to be strong and loving but you also need your time to cry and let it all out. Facing your emotions will make you stronger and even though you might feel powerless now, just know that your best will always be more then enough. He needs you now more then he ever has and the fact that you can tell him you love him and are horribly sad but that you are willing to stick by him every step of the way, this will be a great confort and give him strengh. We know so little about cancer, it's worth trying different treatments and combining traditional with alternative. I also think that cancer is very much linked to emotional trauma and helping your boyfriend face his ghosts might also be a wonderful way for him to find some peace of mind at the least. Take it one day at a time and appreciate all the small things that you have shared and still will share together. Try not to see this as an end in itself but a new begining. From now on things will be different but it will all work out, afterall he is still here by your side which in itself is already something that can give you much strength, happiness and hope. I hope this helps some for now. I'm sending you all the best positive vibes through the web.

I am sorry to hear about this. I don't know exactly what to tell you but I will try. Just spend each time you two are together like each time you have spend with him before you learned this bad news. Don't let this hold you two back from being happy with each other. Don't dwell on what could/might happen but be happy that you have another day together. I hope this helps somehow.

HE WONT DIE HUNNY! When my mom was in the hospitol with her breast cancer we got a call saying she wasnt going to make it. I kept saying to myself she will make it, she will and she did. YOU NEED TO HAVE HOPE. You nee to think to yourself There is no way this could happen to me, him, so its going to be over with Have faith please have faith itwill save your friends life. Get down on your knees and pray, heck dont pray scream out to your God please beg him for your boyfriends life, i know i will tonight. This is a very difficult situation, dont start thinking about how you will move on, he still here and you need to keep telling yourself that hes staying. Your boyfriend loves you, and i dont htink hed want to leave you here on this earth alone.

hi i just want you to know that im praying that your boyfriend get better,your friend ,adriana

Juss have faith my friend Pray to God coz God is the only answer and there is nothing impossibl with God.

Hop this will helps you

Oh no! I just found this question. I've been following your questions like a cupid on the prowl with a few extra arrows. Please keep e updated, I soooo want you to be happy with your boyfriend/husband.

I have had similar problems in my life. My girlfriend had cancer, and I stuck with her through thick and thin, but when things went poorly for me, she bailed as fast as she could.

I REALLY hope things are smooth and easy for your relationship!

This is a very tough situation. I have been with my boyfriend for just a couple months and he too has recently been diagnosed with leukemia. its really hard to swallow, so i completely understand how upseting this is for you.
we havent known each other very long, but ive been there from the beginning of the negative news. i know that its crazy, but everything does happen for a reason and as severe as cancer is, there is always the posibility that things could be worse. since weve been together, ive really tried to be his shoulder to lean on and that is all that we can pretty much do. love does crazy things, but it also keeps you strong and ive found that its really made things a million times better in our situation. your boyfriend(along with mine) have tons of things going through their minds-whether or not they share it with us, and so much stress to deal with and multipule other things that come along with this wicked sickness, so what i suggest is to just be strong. im sure that hell see that and it will boost his spirits too. part of our job as the girlfriend is to make them happy. just enjoy your time together and have as much fun as possible. be a part of the ugly medical side. but keep your chin up and enjoy your time outside of that. plan special dates and make as many memories as you can.
im here if youd ever like to chat. good luck to you.
jacki

Hey baby girl, keep your chin up. For starters, although it may seem like not, thinking positive really count. not just for you but him too. Your mind is terribly strong! Next, research research research. Knowledge is the other half of ya'lls battle. PLEASE check into natural remedies. Next know this... Diet is SO crucial now. You need to teach the two of you what it is and how the disease works. I have been doing bookoo study on health and the body is an amazing machine. It repairs itself but you must nourish it properly. You must be aware of the things you eat and expose to. Just don't take for granted the label saying its healthy research it. They use so much BS in our foods, when you read a label and you see all those big words look them up. You may feel quite distraught at first when you begin to find out the things they put in our daily foods that are known to b e cancer agents. Don't get glum, knowing is again half the battle.Routine of your diet is also crucial. Don't just take the doctors word like Isaid. Study the hell out of it. You will find people conquer all sorts of diseases with just the effort. You have to be extra strong not just for him but yourself too. None the less certainly for him because you are not two you are ONE! Next retrain your cleaning habits. Amp em up. Meaning it is time to realize the tiny little particles of dust and such that you cannot see are a chunk of what you are battling. Make certain the water is not tap that he drinks. Check your bathing water , you can do some research on that too. Make certain you cook well and again research research research. Check those natural remedies and talkk to the people whove fought the bATTLE. cleanse the colon, and hey check out virgin coconut oil, Vitamin C (and a hell of alot of it) apple cider vinegar, salt tablets, graviola, broccoli, cinnimon and licorice. Chin up sweetheart, ya'll have been through tough times I am sure, you can do this together!

Your short story has touched me.
I know first hand how hard it is to find out your boyfriend has Leukemia. My boyfriend told me he had leukemia, and to my surprise I felt like he had already passed away.
I felt heart broken, and so alone at that moment, because I would hate if I'd lost him when he was so perfect.
All you need to do is pray. Pray for your boyfriend and ask God to watch over him and heal him.
The second thing you need to do is be yourself. Don't always ask him about the leukemia, or the treatment, or How does it feel to have cancer?.
If he ever wants to talk about it he'll talk about it.
I know it's hard, because I have so many questions for my boyfriend. Like, Does it hurt?, or Do you worry what the next day will bring?.
I also don't worry about him. I mean I obviously think about him, and pray for him, but I don't dwell on the negative every day and think if I'll see him tomorrow.
I love him with all of my being, and I will die inside if I ever do lose him.
Instead of dwelling on theb ad thoughts, I dwell on the uplifting thoughts, and that he is having a wonderful day.
Also, don't dwell on doing everything for him, or Babying him. He's still capable of doing things.
I don't mean to sound harsh, I'm mostly saying don't always seem sad around him.
I cry at night sometimes.. Think about him, and hope everything is okay.
But that's normal. I will pray for your boyfriend, and hope everything is okay.
I hope this isn't too late of an answer for you. lol
[Like you posted this 5 months ago or something and already got advice. lol]
I will still think about you two and pray for you two.
Good luck!
-Rebekah

im so sorry...my aunt was diagnosed w/ colon cancer so I no what it is like...listen sometimes all you need to do for him is be there for him...hold his hand and tell him you love him...taake my advice...if you r willing to read this book:
Angels Watching over me it is very good and I hope you will like it!!!

im praying for you..

hey there, dont know what this website is all about, just got here, looking 4 some advice for my myself. my friend, he died of leukemia on thursday, valentine's day... but the thing I regret is knowing how bad his condition was, I just ignored him when he wanted to talk about death, dont make this mistake. our story is really complicated, but just try to understand, support him, this is the time where he really needs u, dont cry in fromt of him, listen to him. I'll pray 4 you guys...

He will be okay(: Just like everyone else said, have hope. This boy that I've been talking to for a while now just told me about him having leukemia. Of course I still like him, and yes a lot of questions have been coming to my mind...escpecially the what if questions, but I (just like you) have to keep faith!!! Those docters are miricle workers!!! And for his sake, keep telling him that it will all be okay, and don't let him see you cry because even though it is hard on you...it's even harder on him. So for both of y'all...God bless!