Should I do it even if I don't want to?

ok well my boyfriend has been pressuring me into giving him head,and having sex with him and I am scared because I have never given anyone one before and I am afraid that if I don't do it right he will dump me. what should I do ?

Bad Reasons for sex too soon:
· A need for sex.
· You want the person to love you.
· Social pressure to perform.
· Nothing more to talk about.
· Boredom.
· A curiosity to find out if there's any chemistry.
· You want to make someone else jealous.
· To persuade your partner to leave his or her current partner.
· You're challenging a dare.
· An attempt to solidify the relationship.

5 Very Good Reasons to NOT Have Sex
*You don’t feel ready.
*You’re too scared to try it.
*You just don’t want to do it.
*You feel pressured by peers or your partner.
*You feel like you are being asked to prove your feelings by having sex

13 year olds don't understand that in order for sex to be a good thing, you need two people who are mature enough to really love and trust each other. When you don't have that, sex is bad and leaves the girl feeling like she's been used.

It is also important to understand all the good things and bad things that can result from having sex.

For guys see sex as totally physical and don't get their emotions involved. They set a timeline, or they pressure the girl for sex.The thing is, by doing that, your boyfriend isn't treating you like a person. He's just saying, he needs/wants to have sex with "his girlfriend". But you're not just "the girlfriend" - you are your own person, with your own feelings and needs and comfort zone.

Take a deep breath and say these words: "No, I don't want to have sex".

Don't let him talk you out of what you know is right. If you make out with someone, no matter how far you go, it does NOT mean that you have to go all the way.

Don't be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sex. Choosing not to have sex is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want!

If he tells you, "If you loved me you'd do it”, come back at him with, "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.

Remember, having sex is a big deal and not having sex is perfectly normal.
SEX VS. LOVE
"If you love me, you'll have sex with me."

"I love you, I just want to show you how I feel."

"If we love each other, there's nothing wrong with it."

"Sex is natural."

^^At one time or another, most girls hear some version of one of those lines. But guess what? None of them mean you have to have sex with someone - even if you are truly, madly, deeply in love with that person!

Love and sex are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no one definition of love because the word "love" can mean many different things to many different people.

If he breaks up with you because you didnt give him what he wanted, then it wasnt you he really wanted!

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. If he keeps pressuring you, be the one to dump HIM. He's being inconsiderate to your feelings, and very selfish. Once you give him what he wants, he will most likely lose respect for you anyway. If he really cared about you, he would never ask you do to anything you don't want to.

Dont do anything that you are unsure about or dont want to do. if he cannot understand that then obiously he aint the guy for you .

good luck

screw him... but not literally. dump him... he shouldnt be pressuring you into having sex. when your ready your ready

no!! dump him!! if he keeps pressuring you like that after you told him no he obviously only wants to get laid and doesn't respect you at all. that makes you nothing to him, you can do WAY better, just leave him!!

I think you should dump him... for being such an insensitive prick...

No do not give it up because if he's pressuring you into it ALL he wants is sex and that's ALL he wants TRUST ME.bc if all he wants is that he will do whatever to get it and he will fer sure dump youu after you've done it with him a few times. plus think about the consequences pregnancy?STD? Im waiting until I'm older or most likely married.are you Christian? If so then read the teen bible it gives me advice on everything it mentions like every issue.

Lol I'd just give him a handjob or he'd finger me LOL