Why are my friends blaming me for everything?

My friends and I fight... A LOT! Sometimes I have these fantacies that everything was ok, but it never is! I get easily depressed over it lately, because all of the time, I'm the one whose blamed. Normally, if something is wrong or unfair, I'd stand up...

and speak, but whenever we fight and I'm pointed at, I bottle my feelings up. We know eachother so well, we know exactly what to say to mae eachother angry. I know I'm not always innocent - but still, I find myself being blamed for something I didn't even know about. We're drifting apart... HELP!

I would like to share something with you. When I was in the 8th grade, my very best friend brought no-doze to school. She got this from her older step-sister. The shcool found out and my friend and all the people who she hanged around were searched. I believe there was some tylenol found in one girl's purse and maybe a couple of aspirin found in a locker. All of us, even the ones who were innocent, were punished. That isn't the bad part. Our parents were called to come to the school. My best friend's father said to my mother, If it wasn't for your daughter, my daughter would not be in this trouble.. As you said, you have some responsibility for your actions, but not everything is always your fault. I should have taken that incident in the 8th grade as a sign. I didn't and remained friends with this girl, and her two sisters for 23 more years. That is a long time and through the years things have happened. One of those sisters ended up sleeping with the other one's husband. Another one of those sisters became addicted to cocaine. The one I was the closest to, (it changed from the one in the 8th grade to the the middle sister after some time) cheated on her boyfriend for a year with one of our mutual friend's boyfriend. I am telling you this because somehow, I also would get blamed for these things. All of them. It has always been like that with these girls. Recently, another silmilar incident happened with one of the sisters and another girl and again, I got blamed. Here is the funny part, I live in Texas and these girls live in Tennessee. I finally decided I had enough. Maybe I was not fed up enough before. I am getting rid of the poison in my life. My mother always taught me my actions have consequences. Good and bad ones and I need to be responsible for myself and willing to accept all consequences for my actions. I realized that these girls have learned from their parents. The example set by their parents was to always look to someone else for the cause of their problems. They do. I teach my son something I learned in a parenting class, logical consequences for your actions. For example, if he rides his bike in the street after I have told him not to, I take his bike away, not ground him from the tv. I MUST accept responsibilty for myself and I DO NOT want to set the same example for my son that my friends' parents set for them. Don't be like me. Don't wait 23 years to finally cut ties. They will drag you down, make you the scapegoat, use you, and many other things. Look at yourself and figure out what it is that makes you an easy target. I had to take some of the responsibilty in my friends' behaviour because I allowed it to continue for so long. I would not stand up for myself. You can either put your foot down and tell your friends you will not be responsible for their actions or you can continue to be their scapegoat and do nothing. Maybe if you stand up for yourself, they will respect you and still be your friend. Maybe not. But as amblessed said, if they are treating you like this, they aren't really your friends anyway. Good luck.

If your friends treat you like that, guess what...they're not your FRIEND.

yeah- i agree!

let them know how you feel and if that really continues, i duggest u find better friends

Those aren't true friends...you deserve to have friends that are kind, loving, and understanding. They should not point the finger at you whenever there's an argument. Let them know how you feel and that they way they treat you is unfair. If they just brush it off then they obviously don't care about your feelings. The easiest way, after talking to them, if they still don't care is to start distancing yourself from them until you can finally break free. Your friends should not make you feel depressed, they should make you feel happy.