How can i stop thinking about my best friend's husband?

A few weeks back, I went to visit my boyfriend during a terrible time- a friend of ours young daughter had passed away. The night after the funeral, her husband and I were the last ones up finishing our beers and I had my feet resting on his chair...

(because it was freezing outside and I had no shoes on-wanted to get them off the cold ground). He grabbed my feet to warm them, and began rubbing my feet, which then moved to my legs. I stopped him before it went any further, however we did kiss. I knew this was not a good idea, that we were both upset about the loss of the young girl, and so I went to bed (alone). My family (husband and kids ) and I vacationed 1 week later w/ them--- kinda awkward, but none the less we have all been boyfriend for 10 years now (my boyfriend for 16 years). One night we were the last two up, and again, he hit on me, and again we caressed and kissed, but nothing more--- although it is evident we both can't stop thinking about each other. Here is the real kicker--- his wife just found out she is pregant w/ there 3rd child--- now I know that this has got to stop-- For the love of god, we are all such great friends. However I can't stop thinking about him or feeling this physical attraction for him. Sad thing is we are both so much alike--- we agree that our spouses don't need to know, but HOW DO I STOP FANTICIZING ABOUT HIM???

Dear crazyjersey,
Well it seems that you over looked one thing here..he also kissed you. He's married and your best friends husband making him a low life and a potential cheater. One good thing is I think your mature enough to know that you cannot be around him. How do you explain to your friend that you're avoiding him? Perhaps she should know what happened. She may just trade both of you in for ones she can trust.
Sue..good luck

you just want to stop fanticizing about him easy just think of someone even hotter than him like a favourite celeb thats what i do .

That sounds easier said than done. I mean he is pretty hot to begin with, and quite honestly we both have kinda had a crush on the other since we met. Can't I just keep him in my fantasies w/o ever acting on it? Is that possible being that they are our best friends? The sad thing is that he is hot, and that I really did enjoy what did happen; yet I am just going to have to avoid being alone w/ him for some time and that is that I guess..

Theres no harm in fantasizing about anyone..just as long as those feelings arent carried out ! You both need to respect boundaries. Im sure theres a great many of us who are strongly attracted to someone else, but we all dont go letting that person know or mess around with them. If you feel you cant be around him, then you shouldnt. If your husband or his wife question it, then be honest.
We always seem to want something more than what we already have. We just cant have everything! Spend more time thinking about your marriage/husband, and concentrate on being the best you can be with what you have!

You need to quit being selfish, you have a husband and kids to think about NOT your supposedly best friend's husband. That is low and so wrong! Stop thinking about this man! and DO NOT spend any more time alone with him! Obviously everytime you do you cannot control your horney emotions! Utterally disgusting!

If you do anything with him, it's wrong and your friend should dump you immediately. Remember Karma..would you want her sleeping with your husband one day when you were pregnant?