How to control the love i have for my best friend?

I have a problem. I have been best friends with my guy best friend. We tell each other everything. I feel great around him. I can be myself and with no makeup, hair not done. I am only almost 15 and I shouldn't be feeling the way i do. He makes me...

feel great we can laugh all day we always hangout b/c we live by each other. We have gone out before a lot of times. Everytime he tells me that he doesn't wanna ruin our relationship when it already is starting to break. We still remain best friends. Ever since that first time we have broken up and became friends I have fallen for him. I am so close to him and I love it. I have somebody to talk to. I would do anything for him but he goes through girlfriends almost every week and it upsets me. When I see him with a girl I am upset. I want them to be over. But I do still want him to be happy. Whether its with me or not, I want him. I cry over him and I don't know why. I wish what I am feeling would leave. I want all these feelings to go away and I'd know how to get them away. What is it I can do? I cant help it. I want him soo bad and I cant tell him how I feel b/c it will make things weird between us. I really don't want that. Yesterday I broke down. I cried for hours and I was talking to my friend about it. She wants me to tell him how I feel and I don't. What should I do? Things are rough at home as well. But people always ask us are you two going out; and nobody has a clue as to how painful it is to say no were just friends I don't know. My heart hurts. I feel like it has been ripped away and just walked all over. I want a new one. I don't want these horrible feelings i have. Is there something i can do or say? Please i cant even explain ANY of this. I would jump in front of a bullet for him. I seriously would. I would die for him. Please help me.. my heart hurts and eyes are red and please I'm hoping for something...

thank you
- Broken heart

if he liked you that way, he would have made his move long ago.
you know that is true, don't you?

don't tell him how you feel if you want to keep him as a friend.
however, it's not likely that you'll be able to be just friends, so...
my advice is this:

don't talk about it now.

date someone else. anyone. start a new activity or something. take your mind off him.
spend less time with him and you'll start to understand. Teenage boys are motivated by sex and you are looking for love.

In seven years, he'll kick himself for blowing it with you.

In the meantime, move on. Find new friends and try your hardest to be yourself.

later on, he'll ask why you two don't hang out as often. Probably when he needs an emotional boost. Tell him that you felt confused by the relationship and wanted some distance from it.

something might happen for you then. if not, at least you won't have suffered a terrible rejection.

Ummm wel i think you should tell him how him how you feeel b/c things could change because in a way it seeems like he likes you to ecspecially how close you guys are... but if i were you i would tell him b.c some boys are like tht once you tell them you like them they change and they start to look at you possibly more then a friend..And if your really falling for him and you think your in love you should probly tell him b.c what if he tells you the same and he just never wanted to tell you all along and he may have been goin out with those other gurls b.c he didnt wanna tell you he liked you...

...michelle..

wow mustrealy care for him well huney i thnk you should tell him because hw d u know all ths time he has liked you!!to and u had no clue .. but f u wait he might stop likeing u so tel him u do asap!!!

I think you need to tell him, but don't just dive right into it and make everything awkward between you two. You could say something like I think I really like you- and it's becoming really hard for me to see you with other girls, so I'd like to spend less time together if you don't feel the same way about me. You need some time away from him, so that you can focus on other parts of your life and remember you'll be okay without him if he doesn't want to have a relationship with you. Hopefully, if you spend some time with other friends and try to see him less for a while, your feelings for him won't be so hard to deal with and you can still be friends with him. Let me know if you need any more help, Good luck!

Hi: relationships are costly. You have a lot invested in this one already. I agree talking with him about your feelings may change how things are. just friends is demeaning of yourself. Being a friend is - H U G E - A friendship is a treasure. Too many relationships never get to that level. Enjoy his friendship but don't spoil it. If there develops a mutual attraction to take it up a notch you will both know it. All of a sudden he will open the eyes of his heart and S E E you in a different light. Guys are a little dense sometimes. ( Sometimes ? ? )