How can I relieve my anger problem?

Hi, im Dan, im 13 years old, and I feel like sometimes I have somewhat of an anger problem. I'll get angry over stupid little things and it'll boil up inside me and then I act like a jerk to my friends and family and I hate it. Can anybody tell me how to stop it or how to relieve it without taking it out on other people?

If I where you I would do what my brother does .he has the same problem.he just trys 2 control it.

Hi Dan. First I would like to tell you that I am very impressed that at such a young age you have recgonized this as a problem and are brave enough to ask for help. There are several things you can do. You have to find what works best for you. First, when you start to feel angry, before you let it build it and then you are overcome by the emotion, try to figure out exactly what you are angry about. Maybe you are upset with someone because they said something to you that was hurtful. Identify your source of anger. Do this immediately rather than waiting. Next, attempt to correct the situation. Go to the person who hurt you and talk to them. Let them know that you are upset. Rectify the cause of your anger. Do this within moments of becoming angry so that you are still able to confront the person with a clear head. Last, allow the person to apologize or explain. Be sure to listen to them and when you feel that you have been vindicated, move on. Resolve and let it go. There are other times when you may get angry about a situation. Concentrate on what the situation is that has upset you. Decide if there is anything you can do to change it. If it is out of your control, try to accept this and find peace knowing that you cannot change everything. If you find yourself upset with someone and you cannot get to them immediatley to let them know, find an outlet. Punch a pillow, run really fast, write it down, find something that makes you feel better. When you do finally get a change to confront the person, you will have a clear head and can talk to them without being mean. The important thing is to stop holding it in. It is ok to be angry sometimes. Sometimes anger can mask other feeling like sadness. Try to make sure you are really feeling anger before you act upon it. You can do this! It will be ok.

Well im the same way sometimes I just know how to not be a jerk and to keep my emotions held upi inside mainly b/c I protect people and be strong for them but anyways it doesnt work for me personally I dont like it but try therapy if that doesnt work try talking to whoever made you mad nicely just tell thrm what they did and I don't know not to do that or something in that catagorey.

Usually anger, when it happens...It sparks up when something happened in the past you know...maybe someone got you mad before and you kept inside of your heart I think? tell me if I am correct?

Try Getting Refered to a councilor- get a refural from your GP and explain the issue you have and im sure he will be able to get help for you

hope I helped

Dan

I have the same problem, I just walk away go to my room and blast music I swear I'm going deaf because I get mad so often at stupid things...my mom thinks It's because I'm a Jordan cross with a Stewart thats a horrible combination

Jordans -are pot heads and cant keep there asses out of jail
Stewarts- cant keep there anger underwrap and are constantly fighting

See horrible combination

if you want to chat sometime funmail me and I'll give you my e-mail