Am I too blunt?

I've been getting regular complaints via FunMail from people who were offended by my advice. The funny thing is, they usually just throw random insults @ me, or tell me I'm judging them, or my favorite, make sensational assumptions as to who I am, or how I LIVE my life.

From MY standpoint, if you're doing something completely selfish and/or stupid, and you ask for advice, I'm NOT going to be nice about it. I don't think being 'nice' will help at all. If you can't handle blatant honesty, that just makes my opinion even more accurate. I don't do it to EVERYONE, just the ones that really NEED a good e-slap.

What do you think? Is my 'sugar-free honesty' often justified? Or am I'm just another cyber-bully?

CA

Go back and read all your answers to people - it should become obvious - it is to me - nobody's perfect.

Lots of people can't handle a good e-slap even though it's what they need most. It's the internet.. people should expect some replies that aren't what they want to hear. I don' t think you're ever out of line.

'From MY standpoint, if you're doing something completely selfish and/or stupid, and you ask for advice, I'm NOT going to be nice about it. I don't think being 'nice' will help at all. If you can't handle blatant honesty, that just makes my opinion even more accurate.'

Word.

Seems to me like you only point out the obvious.

amblessed = one of those people who can't handle honesty.

And I don't need to read all my posts to realize that nobody's perfect. I already know that. I read my posts for a good laugh.

No, I dont think you say anything out of line. I've read some of your answers to people, and I laughed my a$s off. some things you say are hilarious. but I dont think you're an internet bully or anything, you say what some people are thinking, just dont want to say for the fear of being mean. its the world wide web, if your going to post something and expect everybody to post things on it to make you happy, then you wil be sadly mistaken. people will tell the truth, whether it makes them happy or not. they need to think about that before posting it. they are posting things, your giving your opinion, they shouldnt complain. its there fault for posting on the internet.

Let's see. . . Are YOU to blunt. . . . Well Duh. . . . . . that's a stupid question

haha na you are awesome. you tell it as it is and I havent read anything where your advice has been wrong!

u rock!

capt: I'll let you in on a little secret - Jesus loves you and died on that cross for you too.

Consider this: If I choose to accept Jesus as my Savior - and I am wrong - the worse that could happen when I die is...Nothing

If I choose to reject Jesus - and I am wrong - the worse that could happen when I die is...I spend eternity (forever) in a terrible place called Hell

Take care my friend...as long as you still have breath, there's hope !!

Note: In my entry before yours, I made the general, factual, statement 'nobody's perfect' - I didn't personally attack or attempt to embarass you, yet look at your entry...Hmmm

If this makes you feel like a 'big person', so be it...all I know is I can sing: 'When we've been there 10,000 years, we've no less days to sing God's praise, than when we first begun.'

Have a great day !!

Captain, you are cool and fresh,a little unpolished at times, but who isn't?
In fact I am just going to add you to my friends list...
At least you have a mind of your own and your thoughts didn't come out of a book translation, designed to control and subdue the hard done by masses, whilst the Kings and politicians bathed in oceans of gold.
amblesseds' flavour of nutiness gets on my t*ts - and answers to nothing! There, someone had to say it! and it just had to be me!

Speaking of Pascal's Wager...

Its hilarious how he's condescending, but thinks that talking about 'Jeezy Chreezy' makes it NOT condescending...

Oh, and so far, he's the ONLY one that has a problem with it. Not because I'm blunt, but because I'm agnostic, yet I know more about Chistianity than he does.

http://i223.photobucket.com/albums/dd221/xiigzag/pwager.jpg

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Dear captainassassin,
At some point all get accused of something when we give advice the questioner doesn't want to hear. Too blunt, too stupid, too judgmental etc. I was told I was too ugly to give advice...(no replys on this please lol) We need a variety of answers and that takes a variety of people and that means different strengths of opinions. I've watched you from the start of your postings and I will say you have mellowed out a bit and are starting to show more empathy. The style is you so don't change what you bring to this forum...personally I'm a fan and have said this from your first posts...well not quite the first you were kinda too blunt but maybe your 3rd post LOL.
Sue...good luck

The first prerequisite for gentle conversation is to be able to disagree without thinking less of each other. This is the ideal I try to live up to anyway. I also know that I can learn something from everyone I talk to; including the ones I disagree with.

I've been accused of bigotry. I've been in exchanges where after the other person hurls one ad hominem after another at me they act hurt after my first argument. I say don't dish it out if you can't take it.

Personally I enjoy your posts; even the ones I disagree with. Then again I admire bluntness and honesty. I much prefer someone who will say it to my face than behind my back. Keep being yourself, I like Ani Difranco's quote, 'it is better to be hated for what you are than liked for what you are not.'

Sometimes you are a little hard on amblessed and silverwings. Nothing over the line in my opinion but such discussions are rarely productive.

with regards to that wager xiigzag- you should start a new topic, it might be interesting? there certainly are worse things that can happen than 'nothing''.

Well, yes, actually it is good for a person to know where one stands instead of trying to guess or be mislead and lied to. No one likes that! Being honest and truthful is not only refreshing but it paints a clear picture of the kind of person you are and or are striving to be. However, being cynical and arrogant are not characteristics one should strive for. Also, seeing as how this bantering is between Christians and others of the human race/faiths or not, Jesus did the same exact thing. He told the truth without appology and was very direct and to the point. I'm not equating you, Capt., with Christ. Jesus told the truth in love, for us.
People need honesty today more so than ever. From both sides though there needs to be clear answers said in love and respect to the others. Respect is earned not given. By giving answers that have a maligning tone or outright rudeness to them need not be posted and are a waste of time.
Tell the truth, say it like it is, don't sugar coat or beat around the bush. But, be respectful.

you tell people what they need/and are asking to hear...
keep it uppp

Jeezy Chreezy.
Did you just insult Jesus?
You're worse than I thought. And as for your actual question. I think that you are sometimes helpful. And sometimes you can be a little too harsh.

Please, don't mock Jesus again.

Jesus Christ = Jeezy Chreezy

Its just a nickname. I have many; that one & 'The Jeez' are my favorites. None of these nicknames have any derogatory meanings. So quit assuming...

Because that's how the 'Salem Witch Trials' started.

Well everyone has different opinions. And everyone takes things differently. That's all Im going to say... But yes you are blunt, but in a good way for what some people need to hear. Its not bad.

well they asked for what you thought didn't they?

if they didnt want to hear your answer they should not have asked the question.

This is my opinion, I haven't read MANY of your posts, but have read a few and if we didn't want to hear what the 'internet world' had to say we wouldn't post our questions out here now would we?

If you don't want people to judge you or tell you like it is, then keep your questions off the internet!!!

Just my 2 cents!! But who really cares what I have to say???

amen!

I think that the posts need to be split up, with the non believers on one, clearly stated, so that any and all that agree can come together and say or do what ever pleases you, and that the believers should have their own post, because it is not possible for the two to be in agreement, just won't happen.. and it is not fair to the ones of faith to have to be on the defensive all the time.. They should be able to declare what they think, and feel without being attacked, by non believers... Please for the sake of everyone, Split the posts.. into For Believers, and For Non Believers...

Nope. Not going to happen. This site is NOT pro-segregation...

Besides, this site is made to give ADVICE; with no emphasis on whether or not the advice-givers agree or disagree.

...and your post has nothing to do with the subject matter. THIS thread is about ME.

hahahaha.. DUH!

Cap, if the world was full of people like you, I truly belive it would be a better place. At some point, we adopted this mentality that it's better to let everyone run around being complete morons and it would be horrible for us to tell them that they are. Well, I for one am offended when people turn a blind eye to the stupidity flying all around us. I only hope you're the same in person.

Keep supplying the truth. Eventualy, people will try it and realize it's tasty.

Oh, and I forgot.

Off topic, I prefer Senor Jesus as far as nicknames for that particular deity. And before someone pitches a hissy fit, go to a hispanic church. That's how they refer to the Super J.

*sob*

I kinda feel like Sally Field, receiving her first acting award.

TO THE BIG CA
I think your comments are cool, the ones I've read. you have an awesome sense of humour sometimes.

TO OTHER people:
please, speaking as a fellow Christian, don't go all vague about serious things without nothing to say! It just gives the rest of us a bad rap with other people, and can do more harm than good. Don't threaten people with eternal hell. its not polite
And dont discriminate against people who aren't Christian! When I look at it objectively, using the word non-believer can be taken the wrongway.
I'm not trying to be mean, just, yea this is my opinion

Sutsamoon's right.

but the Jeezy-Chreezy thing is, like, blasphemy. It may not be a big deal to our friend the Cap , but it is to many pepole.

but I didnt get on this to just mouth off at peeps, so ill just say CA, your comments are funny

I'm not going to bcome someone who just says stuff without any advice, and not even the shadow of an opinion for fear of offending someone, looking through rose colourded glasses at how the world is meant to be, as opposed to what it is.
if I feel someone needs God and there is an opportunity to tell others about Christ without totally putting them off Christianity forever, then I'll do it, but I wont mumble vaguely without getting to a piont. So please, people, hold me 2 that. if I do it, or if my nicknames get on your nerves, Cap, then let me know and I wont do it no more.

And for some peeple, it might be time to look at the person you are really coming across as, to see if that's really your intent at all.

and I did what I said I wasnt gong to do viz: mouth off. but it needed saying, and I hope I've done it the nicest and most constructive way it can be done.

this has been very long, and if you think I've been mean, please let me know without attacking me, lol.

I think that you are honest and pretty much all of your answers make me laugh because they are sooo true! You are not wrong, and you don't let others be either. You are definately the person with the most personality and wit on this site! I guess you could also call me a 'fan'! I love reading your answers, keep it up!

Yeah you can be funny at times. But I've realized reading this post, that your WAY full of yourself! It seems like you put this up just to answer yourself, and to gloat. And if someone DID think you were being to harsh and decided to let you know, because YOU ASKED, you would just argue that they're wrong! And this isn't even the only question you've asked where you've answered yourself! Why do you even ask questions if you THINK you already know the answer? Your nickname shouldn't be captainassassin it should be mryoucan'ttellmenothingcuziknoweverything. You THINK you have ALL the answers!

That's just MY STANDPOINT!

NOW, go ahead and TRY to argue this one out with me, but just so you know, I won't be checking back. So feel free to waste more energy on arguing with yourself and saying how right you are and why you THINK everyone who disagrees with you just needs 'a good e slap'.
HAVE FUN in your arrogance!

***mryoucan'ttellmenothingcuziknoweverything***

I tried... it wouldn't fit...

your A Gd Person =D

oh goodness this is all so funny like all the answers and stuff
to answer uf question are u to blunt ;well personally everyone is blunt at one point or another
some poeple are more blunt than others
well if blunt is telling the truth(like you do) your at the top of the list
but thats not what my interpetation of ''blunt''is
all in all you r not 2 blunt

Well, the dictionary definition for the word...

BLUNT: Abrupt and often disconcertingly frank in speech (synonyms: short, gruff, rough, rude, uncivil, impolite, brusque)

I think it fits me quite well at times. But I wondered if I was behaving in excess...

Sure I think you're blunt...and a bit extreme at times...which is why I guess we've clashed on more than 1 question. I seem to either be just as excessively blunt, or I overexaggerate in my answers. Either way, I usually appreciate the answers you give because I answer others in the same fashion. So if this resolves any problematic issues that you might have with me, I guess thats a good thing.

There's a BIG difference between being 'blunt' and being 'antagonistic'

man...are YOU that bitter that you cant even accept a compliment of giving good advice? I guess its no wonder YOU are still single.

who said he was single?

<3

xox
Sika

*** who said he was single? ***

are you hinting at something?

no.. I just thought it was presumptuous of her to assume that he's single because he's too blunt.

But it's nice to allude to things isn't it?

xox
Sika

***man...are YOU that bitter that you cant even accept a compliment of giving good advice? I guess its no wonder YOU are still single.***

I'm not bitter. People with a limited sense of humor often mistake cynicism for bitterness. And I'm single because I have high standards... you wouldn't cut it...

hahahaha... captain justmade my day =D

I got your back, sister...

I have absolutely ZERO tolerance for people with G.B.S.

thanks...
I don't know why I wasted my time arguing with someone who is always right.

Well... you weren't arguing with ME.

You were arguing with the 'G.B.S. Wench' over there...

hahahaha