Am i right to be upset?

I've been seeing a guy for a few months now. We're good friends first and always. I was the one who had to ask him out, I knew he wanted to ask me and I'm a bit intimadating to most men being that I am very pretty and a pre-law student. He is really very...

shy and insecure. I try to help him through it and be reassuring. Yet I'm tired of always being the one to make the first move. I've never been in a relationship like this before. Last weekend we went out and he had to leave early because he had been asked to help some friends. He is always helping others and I sometimes feel he puts them before me. I don't like being the one who has to call and everything else. So I'm starting to get mad. What should I do?

I was in this exact situation once. I was with this really nice looking and intelligent guy that was insecure and kinda shy. His problem was that he was always too scared to call me or be around me too long because he said that he did not want to seem like he was too clingy or bugging me. I told him that I would let him know if he was and that he should call and make more first moves. Honestly, I really had to keep reassuring him because he was always intimidated by me. He said all this stuff over the phone but things changed when we were in person. Also, he actually told me that he liked for me to chase him because it made him feel wanted and boosted his self-esteem. I don't know if your guy is kinda like mine was but hopefully this was some kind of help.

Mistygurl, i read you response to a girl that wanted her ex-boyfriend back and i thought the advice you gave was great. Have you ever been through very tough break ups before? How old are you? I just want some advice off someone that has been there done that... thanks

Yeah I've been through some tough break-ups. I'm 20 years-old trying to make my way though college. The worst ones are when you break up and there is bad feelings between you. If its mutual it really isn't too bad but relationships where one person has a lot more feeling towards the other its difficult. I've been there on both sides and it isn't fun. It can be really hard if you bump into your ex alot like in classes or when you hang out with many of the same people. No matter what you do in many cases someone is still hurt.

I'm a 20 year old college student who has been through my share of hard break ups. The most difficult ones tend to be where one person has more feelings for the other. I've been on both sides of the coin and it isn't fun. The best you can do if your the one who broke it off is to let the other have space. Time to heal. Sometimes no matter how hard you try your not going to always be able to reciprocate anothers feelings. Now if your on the other side and you were the one dumped try not to judge your ex too hard. Isn't it better to let someone go who doesn't apperciate you as much as someone else could? Now if he was a complete jerk about it, thats a whole nother story. You'll probably go through many what ifs... but things happen for a reason. The hardest part to me about bad break ups happens if you'll be running into your ex a lot, like in classes, work, or when you hang out with friends.

Stupid computer said it didn't go through the first time lol

tell him wat's wrong if he doesn't feel comfertable
around you then maybe u shouldn't be going out wit him