Am i a slut for having sex at 13?

Im 13 and I've had sex...but it didnt fitt...what do I do...im to tight

Being too tight is your body's way of telling you that it is not developed enough for sex yet. At 13 your body is still growing and honestly hon, if you have to ask if it is slutty then that just means that is what you are thinking about yourself, so what kind of message are you sending to everyone else?

'stateofconfusion'... being tight has nothing to do with being developed enough for sex.

Anyways...
You need to think about what you are doing. You are 13-years-old, you should be out doing other things. Stop having sex, wait until someone you are in love with comes along. Wait till you are mature enough to do the right thing. Who cares if you are tight, better then being loose, definitely don't want that. Having sex at a certain age doesn't make you a slut, makes you irresponsible. Someone isn't a slut unless they are promiscuous.

I agree with all of the above. I waited until marriage to have sex and so did my husband. Why take the risk of getting pregnant or catching an STD. If the guy loves you then he will wait.

NO IT DOESNT MEAN THAT you ARE A SLUT

Don't listen to crawford destiny! Stupid 14 year olds should not be allowed to comment on anything!

Having sex at age 13 does not make you a slut. A slut is someone who sleeps around with multiple partners. The common stigma that a person having sex at a young age is that they have the potential to have more partners because they started earlier than others. - of course it has no merit.

If you are responsible enough to prevent pregnancy and STDs/STIs then you are responsible to have sex. If you can't effectively prevent pregnancy or protect yourself and your partner then you have no business having sex.

xox
Sika

It doesn't mean you're a slut unless you didn't love who you had sex with. I count that as being a slut.. But it's a sign (if you're to tight) that you're not ready yet. At 13, you can't be.

It is also possible that you were not turned on enough.

Maybe you should think about waiting until you are a bit older, mature and wiser. It doesnt mean that you cant have fun though.

Ok. I am sorry about my comment torwards crawford destiny! I thought she was saying that the girl was a slut! I am so SORRY!!!

It should have had either a comma after 'NO' or a comma after 'THAT' to make crawforddestiny's comment clearer one way or another susanfullofadvice.

I can see how at first glance you could have misread it.

Thanks Kiasu! I will start reading stuff a lot more closely before I make comments next time!

Listen
my friend had sex when she was 12 ...
it was sad..
you not a slut.
your just lost.
And it's going to be ok
just don't make that mistake again

dear your not a slut, I'm 15 and I lost my virginity at 13, hell yeah I regret it. I haven't told anyone and it's been a year later and I am just opening back up because I had a nasty break up with the guy. it mainly happens when the guy pressures you into it, I was a lil wasted and got used. so just try and keep any of your friends form making the same mistake. and reframe form doing it again. if your too tight then it's your body saying it isn't ready and that your so tense. you need to mature more.

no hun your not a slut im 13 and have had sex but about you being to tight just try to relax and control your thoughts the mind is a powerful thing but it will still be tight so I recomend you try fingering befor you have sex again.

hope this helps!
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I don't think you're a slut if you love the person you're sleeping with and if he loves you too.But if you don't love him and or you are sleeping with a lot of other people ,too then you are a slut//hoe.

no, you are not a slut for havin sex at 13 unless you are sleepin with a lot of guys. I am 13 and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, we are still together and before we did anything he made sure to ask if I was totaly ok with it.