Alone

ok so I am sixteen years of age, and I have social anxiety. It takes all my might just to go to school. I am so afraid of doing something wrong or being embarrased. I have one friend whom I talk to consistanly, and actually a fair amount at school who I...

talk to during classes, but nowhere else.I sit alone at lunch, and go out of my way to make up elaborate stories to get out of social events.I hang out with friends twice a month at most. I've NEVER had a boyfriend. I isolate myself at home for days at a time. I just feel so alone, and I really want to know is there anyone else who feels this way?

there might be somebody that feels that away

your not alone I was the same way for a really long time,
parents went through a really nasty divorce and I kind of just shut down and became a loner, you have to work at it and go outside your comfort zone if you want to change it, and if you don't you'll regret it later.

the thing is I sabotage myself when it comes to making new friends, ill on purposly say something to offend them, and then I regret it later

 
A fish out of water -- and in a nowhere place in Alaska!

Have you ever watched a toddler learn to walk? They fall down many times before they get the hang of it. But, they do get the hang of it -- because they don't know how to quit trying; how to give up.

Jaes, you are that toddler. You are learning how to walk through and cope with life. You are NOT supposed to know how to quit, give up and hide when you stumble. You are supposed to keep on keeping on.

The most successful people in the world are those who have failed (fallen down), often many times but they get back up and attack the world head on. It doesn't matter, to them, what other people think; that other people may laugh at their efforts. What matters to them is that THEY don't give up until they have given their very best effort and then some.

Life isn't easy. It is a constant struggle. The constant overcoming of obstacles and even the occasional heartache the dealing with difficult situations may lay upon us.

But YOU are the key. You are the one who decides what YOUR goals are going to be; that you can accomplish whatever you desire, regardless of what others think or say. You are the one who has to learn to ignore what you think others are going to think or say about you as you are growing through life by overcoming some missteps along the way.

Think about it. What other people think (excluding family -- and they will love and care for you through thick and thin) isn't going to put food on your table, clothes on your back or a roof over your head. It is how well YOU value yourself and how positively you understand your capabilities that determines how well you succeed and overcome the stumbling blocks that life deposits along your path. Each stumbling block prepares you for the next and allows you to develop the inner strength and competence to be able to overcome any problem that may come before you.

YOU must decide:

Do YOU like you? Are YOU worth the good things that life is trying to lay along your path? Have YOU just gone along existing like a dumb rock or have you been learning the lessons that life has been trying to teach you?

You can succeed if you develop a POSITIVE attitude. If you realize that a positive outcome can be attained from even negative experiences.

You are not alone. Many, if not most, people have been where you are. The key is to know that you ARE learning to deal with life on YOUR terms and in a manner that benefits YOU.

Think Positive, Do Positive and Be Positive. AND ALWAYS look for the Positive outcome possible in all situations.

        Simply a Rose to brighten your day,
        And maybe lessen the cares in your way;
        And also, too, to help you to know,
        That in knowing you, many others grow!