Alcoholic father.

I am 13 years old and I live with my parents that are divorced. my dad lives on one side of town and my mother on the other. ok so when I am at my moms house I feel safe and like I won't get hurt because she doesn't drink. and when I am at why dads house...

I feel really nervous because he is a really heavy drinker. I am scared to go over there at times but I'm not at others. I feel like he is going to hurt me again like he did 2 years ago when I was in 6th grade. I feel so scared. I am now in 8th grade and am pretty strong. I feel really nervous when I go but I am there for such a short time that I just get through it day by day. and when I leave and go home to my moms house I act so mean and treat her like s**t I feel really bad though. what do I do to stop doing that? and when I am there at my dads house he drinks and drinks and drinks. I feel really scared because even before my parents were divorced he would drink so much then too, but I wasn't scared because my mom was always around and would protect me. so what do I do if I want him to stop drinking so much around me? he won't go to rehab and he won't take classes. believe me I tried to get him to go once, I got ground for the weekend that I was there. I want him to stop but when I try I feel like I am a bug and he is this really big person that will step on me if I make a wrong move. how do I get this issue to stop scaring me because in 6th grade I had to send him to jail he left a full bruise on my wrist. I don't want to send him to jail if there isn't really a need to besides the fact that I am scared. I feel like I should try to get him in a class or rehab. but if I try again I don't know if he will ground me for the weekend again. what do I do? I know that this isn't the best issue to tell people about online and yes I have gone to a caounsler. so what do you people think that I should do?

I would tell your mom, I bet she can help u.

Yeah you should tell your mum and mabey say to your dad if an when he is sober (sorry if that offends you ) that he scares you when he is drunk and if he loves you enough like a parent should he will think I am scaren my child I need to stop and he should of got the idea by what you have done and I am glad you have been brave enough to try and make him go to the classes. Try telling your mum first and she might be able to get through to your dad. He might just be going through a bad time with them splitting up or something else I dont know what hass happened and that could of caused the drinking and now it might just be a habbit now.
hope that might of helped xx

FIRST OF ALL, YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM ABOUT IT. IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU TO FEEL SCARED OF YOUR FATHER. AND AS MUCH AS I'D LIKE TO SAY YOUR FATHER WILL CHANGE, CHANCES ARE HE PROBABLY WON'T. I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM.. AND STILL HAVE IT. LOOK FOR SUPPORT FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM. THE ONLY THING I REALLY LIKED TO SAY IS DON'T FOLLOW HIS FOOTSTEPS. LET HIS DRINKING BE YOUR REASON NOT TO FOLLOW THE TREND. GOD BLESS.