How to deal with our feelings and age difference?

I know I'm probably going to get many critical and negative answers back about this, but I just wanted advice.
I am 22 and I am in love with a girl who is 14 and she is too. However I hate the fact that it has happened because of the age gap. It wasn't...

planned it just happened, but we really like each other. I know by now people will have assumed the worst but I'd like to explain.
We met each other a year ago, but now we live in different countries and we only talk on MSN, but we speak practically everyday, and help each other out with problems, and it seems that as time has gone on we have liked each other more.
I have no ''creepy'' intentions with her, as many people automatically assume in this situation but even though I know this, other people rarely understand.
People just say why don't you find a girl your own age, but from experience, they always want sex, and I'm not ready. I know it must seem weird but that's the way it is. It just doesnt interest me. Also, I am very small and look much younger than my age which is a problem (I dont even have facial hair, which makes me look even younger), since many girls my age just dont like me because I look so much younger. If you saw me, you'd know.
All I want in a girlfriend at this stage is just someone to talk with, tell secrets, laugh about things with, and go out places like the cinema.
But people never believe this, and I get sterotyped as some twisted weirdo who likes younger girls. I get really scared consequently. I am prepared to wait until she is 18 before we even kiss. But people just assume the worst. I have no interest in a sexual relationship ( I am still a virgin, so I have no idea what the fuss is about), and I am prepared to wait years, just to spend that special time with someone I know loves me.
I am just writing this to see if anyone has any advice, given the circumstances. It just really hurts me, because I dont want to cause trouble. All my friends are much younger than I am, so it feels normal for me to hang with younger friends. My best friend is 5 years younger than I am and we've been best friends for 7 years with no problems. I dont drink alcohol, and hate even the smell of it. I just dont think I've grown up yet to my own age, and I think this is the problem. I still like going to the cinema and bowling at the weekend, rather than going out drinking, like many people my age seem to love (and I dont know why they do, it seems so boring).
And as I said, my looking young doesnt help. Also, she looks older for her age, so if you saw us together, and didnt know our age, few people would even know there was an age gap.
Living in different countries helps a lot, seen I am not trying to get her into bed or anything. And if we still like each other when she is 18, then we can think about being a little closer. Until then I am prepared to wait. Its just the fact we love each other that makes it hard. We log on everyday just to speak to each other and tell each what we did that day and speak for ages.
One other thing, this is not a normal thing for me to like girls that age. I dont like any other girls that age, it's just a one off, and I dont know how it has happened but it has. Her being maturer doesnt help too. She skipped a year at school when she was little, so has always being with people a year older than her. All the people in her year are 15 going on 16, whereas she is still 14. She lives in france and me in england. We have the same interests (fashion, horse riding, cinema etc).
Anyone have any advice?

Look man,

there is no big difference between you and her if you want her to be your lover and you want to wait for her. 8 years is not that much.

you're mature enough to decide what you want to do. she's very young for you if you want to go out with her maybe and your friends, you'll be both incomfortable but you said she lives in france and you want to wait for her so there is no problem for you both.

good luck

u cnt nt want 2 do eny ''creepy'' suff 2 er!!!??? can u

no, as I said I dont have any intentions like that. I just like the company.

I think you guys just met at the wrong age at the wrong time. if she is willing to wait for you and you are willing to wait for her them by all means do so. you guys are only 6 years apart, and right now that seems like a huge difference but as you get older you won't even tell. ex:like if she was 34 and you were 40; people woouldn't even question the age difference. just don't do anyhing illegal. who knows, she might be your soul mate.

Thanks, that's really nice.

My advice is, if you really, and truly do have genuine feelings for her...wait until she turns 18, before getting in a relationship with her. That way you'll save yourself from a lot of ridicule!

If you are both willing to wait, then I think it's awesome, go for it!

wow im I and the exact situation im in love with my friend who is 21 and im 13 we've been friends for sooo long and I just started really liking him and most people are already thinking bad things even though we dont eeven go out so I suggest you wait so you dont get bothered and that way you can have a great relationship with no problems