Are we just afraid to be alone as people?

are we all seeking relationships because we are scared of been alone, or does love truly exist, think about it ,there are not many species that stick to one partner all of their lives
open to debate

no one likes to be alone even though sometimes we are better of that way i think poeple are more stuck on the fairy tale of happy ever after that things are better with someone who loves you and you love them i think the problem is that now a days poeple are more selfish and would rather look out for themselves rather than trying to make a relationship work

i couldnt agree more, that is what puzzled me about my now ex girlfriend ,she says she still loves me to bits but needs to find herself and be on her own (yeah right)
but she is being selfish, thank you you have just given me another step towards recovery of her
again thanks

I think love certainly does exist. Most people love parents, children, friends, or a partner at some point in their life.

Anyone who seeks a relationship just because they do not want to be alone will probably not have a very good or strong relationship. I love being single, and I love being in a relationship, so I am very happy either way. They both have their ups and downs.

I have to say that I do not think your ex was being selfish. If she feels she needs to be alone a while and find herself, then I think that is what she should do. It would be more selfish if she tried to force herself to stay in a relationship when she felt something just wasn't right because that would mean she wasn't being the best partner that she could be for you anyway. If you love her, then you should also be selfless and support her decision to go on her own for a while. Just because you love someone does not mean you have to be with them.

your right of course,we have split but remain friends (of sorts )but i think if you truly love someone (like a parent to a child ) you will try to ..how can i put this ? solve your problems because the love bond shall never be overcome. something like that i think?
anyway when i first posted this question i was depressed and feeling very alone due to her leaving but since i have come realise why she did it and understand.
we were together but not if you know what i mean , together because we had seen some tough times over the 4 years and she was brave enough to decide it had run its course and time to go our separate ways .
loss of attraction on both sides
but only one was brave enough to admit it
im doing fine now ,quite enjoying the freedom of been by myself .

That's great that you're feeling better and enjoying your freedom!

I had one relationship that just wasn't going well once. Finally, he called it quits. I was miserable for maybe about three days. Then all of a sudden, I thought, What in the world am I upset about? We were so wrong for each other, and I have been miserable for the past year. Then I went on to have an amazingly fun time being single for about a year after that. That was a very good year for me. I am in a relationship with someone a lot better now, but I have to admit that part of me still misses that year of the single life. ;P