Advice/support-> my boyfriend is in jail...

Hey, I don't really have a question to ask. I'm an 18 year-old girl and my boyfriend of 6 months recently went to jail for some time...I'm just curious how many other girls are in the same situation as me. All I'm looking for is some advice or support on how to get through this and make my time without him around easier.

P.S.- For all of the people that read this and think I am crazy for sticking by my man, I'd rather not get negative feedback. I've already made my mind up and leaving him is not an option. Thx!

I'm not in your situation but I am an expert on long distance relationships so here is my advice on how to make the time go back faster while keeping in touch with him. To make time go by faster, I suggest keeping a busy schedule which includes time with a good support group (friends for example) that will listen to you and help you feel better when you are down. I also suggest physical activities or sports to help blow off any stress and helps you focus on something else besides the fact you miss him. If you have extra time to fill try taking a class in something you've always wanted to learn or do that way something helps motivate you when the going gets tuff. Try to contact him as much as possible that way he keeps up to date on what you are doing and what is happening in your life. Call whenever possible, visit as much as possible and I suggest writting letters when you can't talk to him but would like to share with him. I like writting little letters everyday before going to sleep and try to send the ones that are too depressing. I find talking about how you feel and sharing as much as possible helps you feel closer that way it's less strange when you finaly get to be together again. Good luck!

I hope that everything works out for you. I havnt been in this exact situation but I have been in one close. if you love him then you should stick by him. I congradulate you for that. it takes a strong person to stick by your man.

I'm not in your situation but I have many friends who are in the same situation and ones that have made it through it. The best thing for both of you is just for you to go see him when you can and write to him as often as you can. It'll keep your relationship strong. Tell him what you do everyday and inquire about what he does, how he's enjoying himself. Try not to get too dresed up to go see him but make sure you look nice so that he has something to hold him through until the next time you see him, getting too dressy though will make it tougher to hold through and might upset him more. And stick in there, don't get discouraged and try to enjoy your time so you're still happy and ready to have fun when he gets out. good luck sweetie and stick tough!

Hi Jordan..

Hey, I can relate!! Completely. I am Laci, I'm 30 years old and my boyfriend just recently got put in on a parole violation. We're new into the relationship and love each other immensely, but it's very sad, I know..we've decided to wait and are trying even to get married while he's in there. This is not his first go round with the law. He's been in County jail a few times as well as the state pens..
I don't blame you for shielding off the negative responses... I get a lot of that from folks too. Only I know the strength of my love and perseverance, as you do yours. That's your business and unless someone is you, they won't know how it feels to long for the man you love and wish he was with you, and how much you need him. I'm in your boat, and might even need some support now and then too, so keep me in mind.

Laci

Hey girl... I am in your exact situation and hell yea its hard but if you love your man you wont give up on him he needs you now more than ever. you should be proud of yourself for holdin ure man down and dedicatin your heart 2 him... my mans got 1 and 1/2 years to go and I would never think twice about leavin my booboo. let time take its course and it'll all work out 4 the best!

Im definitly in your situation right now, my boyfriend of about 5 months just got put in jail about a week ago on some pretty hefty charges. I've made up my mind to stick by him as well. Just know that he needs you to stay strong now more than ever.