Adoption

has anybody here given a child up for adoption or been adopted? what are your feelings about it either as the birthparent or the child?

I'm adopted. I was when I was 4 months old. I have hard feelings toward my biological parents. my real mom has Münchausen syndrome. she hurt me to gain attention from her friends. and family. she was also a prostitute. sooo I was an accident. and she reminds of it every single time we speak. but im ok with being adopted. many people think of it like I had a family that didnt want me... but I see it as they couldnt handle me. and I also see that another family did want me. they had 3 biological children and still chose me. I was picked. so. while some kids are born to their families and their parents are pretty much stuck with them, I was chosen by a family that didnt need to adopt. they had children. yet they still wanted me. sooo. its good. :]

I personally don't think it's right to give a baby up for adoption.
I think that once you get pregnant, that baby is YOUR responsibility. I mean, ok, you didn't mean to get pregnant. But you knew the risks when you had sex, so, be responsible and raise the kid yourself.

I was eight days old when I was adopted I love my mom that adopted me SHE is my one and only mom that I have she loves me feeds me and takes care of me my birth parents could never have given me the love and support shes given me I dont mind the fact that im adopted I usually dont think about my birth parents.

im happy with the family that I have.

no I havent but kids are in frostier care because my sister put them there I cant see my kids I dont know where they are sometimes its better that kids are adoption but for me no I whould never give my kid up for adoption I have 2kids and I still wont them I miss them and and I hate my sister that she did that to me

Adoption is a whole lot better then the alternative for a parent who can not afford or handle the responsibility. I have a friend who adopted two kids and they knew they were adopted but also knew that their real parents were the ones that raised them.

to the person who said she thinks adoption is wrong, you need to shutup. if it werent for adoption, I would be dead right now. so. dont say anything about how its their resposibility. you're right, it might be their responsibility, but what if they CANT take care of the baby? would you rather them abort it? because thats murder. its taking the life of an innocent. what about the families that cant have children? they rely on adoption. so, since you apparently have no idea what you were talking about, maybe you should shut up and not give advice on this subject.

I was adopted, and bonita94, that was very offensive.
For many women, adoption is the option that they choose over abortion... my mother was a teenager, she didn't want to abort, but she didn't want to loose her childhood, and she couldn't afford to take could care of me- what's wrong with giving your child a good home?
Is it better for an abusive mother or alcoholic father to keep their child rather than give it to someone who would be more responsible? And what about poor couples where one is infertile? Or has hips too small to give birth? Or herpes, which could be transferred to the baby, causing blindness and other problems? Isn't adoption a better alternative?

To answer this question, I think that adoption is a wonderful thing- it allows couples where one person is infertile (like my parents!) to have children, and its better than abortion... I'm so thankful to my biological mother for having the strength to not have an abortion at such a young age. I have to feelings of abandonment or anything... I've never met my biological mom, and I'm not sure that I want to. I really like my adoptive parents.

I recently had a child and I would not do anything to change that.I've had friends that were adopted.a lot of them have been very succesful and very happy.if you or a friend if planning on giving a baby up for adoption that is your/their own choice.you have to sit down and really think about it.I respect people who have given children up for adoption because they were responsible enough to try to give the baby a better life than maybe what they could have gave the baby.but think long and hard before you make a descision.

im adopted