Abusive boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I just got in a pretty bad fight. Whenever bad fights happen like this he usual starts pulling my hair, yanking me, or nudging me really hard. This fight he pulled my hair really hard since we were arguing about how I didn't want to go home yet from his place when he wanted me gone.

Whenever I tell him that I'm able to call the cops on him he just says that they won't believe me since there's no bruises.
He always thinks that he's not doing a bad thing as long as he doesn't HIT me.

I can't tell the difference.
:|

We are broken up right now but I know we'll come back around.
I don't know why I put up with this!
Or maybe I'm the bad guy?

I'm confused!
Please Help!

Never let any guy treat you like that. You don't deserve it. You're not wrong, he is. Maybe it's time to move on and find someone who will treat you with more respect. Or tell him that this is his last chance and if he doesn't change then you're done for good. Hope this helps. =]

This is classic abusive behavior. Don't go back. The longer you stay in this relationship, the more the abuse will escalate. He will kill you some day. Love your life more than you love this creep, and protect yourself.

asdfjk I have before but im not seeing any improvement.
When we get in fights it's like when it rains it pours.

He says that I made him like that and he's never been like this with anyone else.

*sigh*

:|

I REMEMBER SAYING " I WILL NEVER GO THROUGH THAT FROM ANY GUY" BUT IT IS HARD BUT GET AWAY FROM HIM ASAP

ohhh nooo you are not the bad guy because helloo he is the one hurtin you right. No man should ever lay a hand on they're g/f nt even a women. neva get back wit him because it might led to sumthing worse like real hittin

Then you can do better. He's not worth it.

Even though he's not hitting you, he's still hurting you. And if he's hurting you, I (and probually everyone else) think you should get away from him.

Just because he's not hitting you now, doesn't mean he won't later.

Its hard since I've been with him for over a year.
I'm pretty much the only person who understands him and his anger.

We already talked about & we're suppose to be going to counseling but I've been busy with work lately.

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Dont feel guilty or obligated... he needs the help, if he wanted help he could go to counseling, he doesnt need you to be there... you need to be worried about your safety, statistics show violence escalates...

So you've been with him for over a year, and let me ask you... does that give him the right to abuse you? I think not... They're are two things that anyone that knows me will tell you I don't put up with, watching a parent hit their child, and watching some overgrown baffoon beat on his girlfriend. You need to get away from that lifestyle cause it WILL only get WORSE!!! It's not your fault he's a prick, and he should go ef himself for trying to make you feel like it's your false...
Now, couseling let's see if that will work... now what happens when your there with him and you say something that he doesn't like or is truely offended and disgusted by: persay him abusing you... what do you think will happen when you leave from there? Here are three choices I'll let you pick...

a. he will be angry and probably take some aggression out on you?
b. he will get infuriated that you mentioned it to "someone else" and hurt you?
c. he will flip out right there, the counselor will tell him to calm down, he say f*ck that she's lying, storm out, and when you leave he'll hurt you...

Now I really hope you figure out what's best for you and you'll be in my prayers...

Read over your forum again...and tell me if you were an outsider that you wouldn't see anything wrong with your relationship.

You didnt make him like this, its just being together for a year, hes finally showing his true character. One year is nothing compared to a lifetime with an abusive boyfriend. This isnt your problem, except for maybe having some self esteem issues. If your boyfriend is abusive now, he will not get better, he will get worse until one day he hurts you really bad or even kills you. It's that serious.

You can love someone and still let them go. You are not loving YOURSELF by staying with someone who doesn't care for you as you deserve. A relationship takes two people who are willing to give freely to each other and it appears as though you are sacrificing a whole lot of yourself and getting nothing in return. It isn't worth it. If your boyfriend isn't willing to do make an effort to improve your relationship, I think you'd be smart to get out while you can.

Ask yourself these questions;

Is he using alcohol or drugs?

Does he have extreme mood swings? Happy one minute and angry the next?

Is he extremely jealous? Does he get into fights with other boys who pay you attention?

Does he use force during an argument or during intimacy?

Does he blame others or make excuses about his problems?

Is he verbally abusive to you? (yelling all the time, putting you down, calling you stupid, threatening you?)

Does he treat his mother with disrespect or is he mean to her? Do former girlfriends say he abused them?

Does he try to control you or tell you what to do, who you can see, where you can go all the time?

Does he try to keep you away from your family or try to make you dependent on him, telling you that he knows what is best for you and your family is always wrong?

I repeat if even two of those things is true, you need to break it off and get as far away from him as possible, because these are all signs of someone who abuses or will abuse women.

You know the answer. You just need to be strong and find a way to STAY AWAY. Looks like you have no problem leaving but you need to come up with a game plan to stay away. The longer time passes, the more you will realize how creepy his behaviour is. NO MAN should ever physically push, nudge, or pull your hair. And from what I know, the behaviour only gets worse as time goes on. I am sure he could punch you in the stomache and there would be no brusing also. Please email back in and tell us you left and stayed away.

Seems like you keep making excuses not to leave that jerk. If he's saying, "You made me this way." It's called a guilt trip or manipulation. Trying to make you feel bad for his problems is also common in an abusive relationship. Cut off all contacts with this guy because he's not worth it and quit making excuses to stay with him.