Abuse

I Have been seeing my councillor for over 2 1/2 years, what I have been through with my step parent is mental abuse!

I really cant help how Im feeling,, my councillor says he isn't going to change so ignore him (she had sessions with him, and he was...

stubborn and believe nothing is wrong with him)

everything he does is controlling, if something is new like my mom wants to go out with friends he will make the whole family feel like we have done something wrong and try to turn my half brother (his son) against his own mother

Its really affecting me, I dont want it too because it makes me feel like he has won! But after years of going through this its really changing me

what can I do to make him not affect who I am, I'm so loud and confident but last year ( for the past 6 months) I've really bin worn down and quite,, not wanting to socialize!!

p.s he calls me a freak at any chance he can, I've started to look in the mirror and actually think m werod,, I never used to think that!! I really feel out of my own skin

comments much apprieciated
I understand I you think im being stupid, maybe this happens to a lot of people I just dont know
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You are not stupid for feeling that way. I do not think that your counselor is doing a good enough to help you. I think you should have a serious discussion with your counselor and consider getting a new one. Good luck with your problems!

Frankly, there is only one way I can think of, and that's to get it out in the light any way you can. Unfortunately, in your situation, that means getting him to go physical. Then you need to find people who do not like him who know what and who he is, and get them to stand by you.

Your brother doesn't seem like a good choice, as he seems to be daddy's pet, from what you describe. Mom is one of these people who is content to let the man control the marriage, and do as he sees fit. And your friends your age won't be taken seriously.

Do you have any relatives that could and would testify against him?

And when you confront him, two things you need to do. First, be calm and logical. This may seem easy for me to say, but I know what it's like to be in front of your parents and have to deal with crap like that. But keep your cool. When he starts yelling, raising your voice slightly is all right, but be the stronger person. You don't need to project your confidence in hatred and agression like he does.

And second, make sure you're armed with something less than lethal. If he snaps and comes at you physically, he's not going to stop with a slap. He'll knock you down to the ground to try to scare you, then start hitting you if you don't give in. This can be deadly for you, so make sure you have a way out.

This probably sounds very bad and decietful, but child abuse is as bad today as it was in the 80s. And just as ignored by most adults.

you should tell an adult you trust like a teacher,friend and so on

pawonpaw

your couselour is stupid and shold care more try 2 sit down with them and talk or try 2 move in with a friend or family member until they change their way.

Awww no.
That's so awful.
All I can recommend is that it is so important that you keep faith in your self despite his negativety.
Your pictures are beautiful!
Know that you deserve only good things!!

Look I lived in abusive home with a mother and a stepdad I had 3 lil bros all his kids
I was the oldest
I got treated like plastic
And his kids were treated like gold
And my mother would rarely stand up for me it got to the point were I got real depressed and started cutting cause no one would listen to me like they would try to help but the problem wouldn't solved
And I ended up just leaving and doing my own thing proving them wrong having them shut there mouth
That's all you have 2 do
Don't let let them get under your skin that's what they want