Abuse.

What do you think of a man hitting/slapping, whatever, to a woman? Should the woman leave him immediately, or at least try to? Or, give him another shot and if it happens a 2nd time then leave for good? What if a woman hits a man? Is it any different?...

If a woman hits a man, do you believe he has the right to hit her back and defend himself?

a man must never ever hit a woman...unless shes been sleeping around behind his back even though the guy loves her to death (its happened), then id guess she need 1 good slap, but no more... this is my opinion, and only mine, I dont take cheating people lightly...

as for a man defending himself...uhm yeah right... men can take a slap and if the guy deserved it, he should take it without a whimper... but he shouldnt retaliate...

if the girl gets hit for no reason she should leave and not give him a second chance... cause shell be hit again...and again and again...

I wouldnt call 1 slap abuse (I've grown up in a different culture so yeah hate me)
but beating...now thats something the guy should be hanged for... or at least locked up for a year...

I dont think any male has the right to hit any female.
If he hits you he obviously has no respect for you no respect = no good relationship.

I would NEVER stay with a guy if he hit me

I think if there is any abusive actions going on in any relationship (romantic, family, friends) it is best to take some time apart. Your relationship is no longer a healthy one. Sometimes it seems impossible to walk away but it is vital you take a break before things get violent. Whether you have responsibilities together (like children) or it is a sibling problem, is irrelevant. You may not need to go your separate ways for good, but you need time apart (while still in civil contact, if possible) in order to safely work things out. If this happens again, then you’re falling into a pattern of abuse. It is no difference whether a man or a woman is hitting, although I couldn't bash anyone defending themselves. I think it might be a good idea to turn to someone who knows the situation, and if you don't mind some reading... I found an excerpt from an essay by John Gottman very helpful in constructive arguing in my relationship. It aims to stop charged emotions, and encourages healthy disagreements. “Fighting” is not bad, it’s when you grow defensive and attempt to hurt one another physically or mentally that creates abuse. The essay was called The Two Marriages; His and Hers I hope any of what I've said will be of help to you. Best of luck.

Just to clear this up - this isn't about me and my fiance - it's just a general question. I'm just curious because most people think that males should never hit a female even if she hits him first - I'm just wondering if you think it's allright for a man to defend himself if a woman hits him.

well it is consider abuse!!! if he hits her its abuse if she hits him its abuse!! she should leave him immidiately because who knows he could do it again and hurt her even worse! and I dont think its any different if a woman hits a man its still abuse. and he does have a right to hit her back! but still this is what im saying its still abuse and its still wrong even if its both male or female!

I'm sorry if it seems I assumed this was about you and your fiance. I tried to remain neutral about it. No, it is no more alright for a woman to hit a man than a man hitting a woman. I think if a woman ATTACKED a man, than I wouldn't hold it against him for knocking her out. I think if a woman HIT a man, it would be commendable for him to restrain her and not resort to continuing the violence. There is confusion because no one wants to see a man slap a girl back for slugging him, while no one wants to see a woman get hit and not fight back. This may be because men are typically more able to cause more harm. It's best to do what we learned in kindergarten; play nice and don't hit.

What do you think of a man hitting/slapping, whatever, to a woman?
Abuse is not right whether it comes from a man or a woman. The leaving part- I think it depends on the circumstances. Was it a little tap? A full blown beat up? A little slap then they could try to work it out but anything more and then I think the person should leave. if a woman hits a man then yes I believe he has a right to defend himself. But defend being one hit and running to get away. Not a few punches. Literally a quick slap so he can get out straight away.

Abuse is abuseno matter wh I comes from.

If a woman attacks a man, I won't be mad at him for hitting her to sop her. It's her on fault. I don't think men hodhit women for no reason, though. NO ONE deserves to be hit.

This makes me think of some comments I've heard recently about the Rihanna/Chris Brown situation. I've heard a good amount of paople say, Oh. Well Rihanna must have deserved it. or I would have hit her too. It's really disturbing to hear people say that someone deserves to be hit. Nothing she could have done (besides attacking him) is a good reason for hitting her.

I think there is no, and I mean NO reason to hit a women, never, I feel if I women gets hit by her boyfriend, or hudsbend, they should leave, and or call cops. Now if a women does that to a man, I still dont see a reason to hit her, just restrain her, or leave.

Thats my view on hitting a female.

People shouldn't hit each other.
If a man hits a woman, she doesn't have the right to hit him back, and if a woman hits a man, he doesn't have the right to hit her back.

It's not self-defense. That's bullsh1t. The ONLY time it's ok to hurt someone is if you genuinely feel you're in serious danger. A slap or one hit isn't that time. You need to remove yourself from the situation.

What's more, if you get slapped, and slap back, it's still not in self-defense, because a slap won't defend you from anything. Slapping back is childish and weak.

I'm a female personally I think that if a women hits a man first then a man as every right to hit her back b/c she is putting herself in a man's position but I also believe that if a man hits a woman first it's not right so if your man hits you first you should leave not look back b/c if he hits you once he'll hit you again but if you hit him he hits you back then that's your fault you shouldn't punish him for that even though he has every right to leave you