Can I decrease the pain of anal sex?

This is almost embarassing to ask.

I want to know if there is any way that I can have butt s*x and not be in pain every time my boyfriend sticks it in me?

Also he tells me that a lot of women like to have butt s*x like its a turn on, Is that really true? Cause from my experience it hurts so bad that I cant let him do it for no more than a couple seconds or I almost burst into tears.

Also we have tried Lube and it still hurts.

I want to do it but its almost unbareable. I just want to please him any way I can so please any advice on how to make it to be not so painful?

If it's not something you're into then you shouldn't have to do it.

You tried it for him and that should be enough for him to appriciate. Some guys are really into anal sex, my ex boyfriend was and we had done it many times, but I also enjoy it. It does hurt very badly and if you're not in the modd to do it then you won't ever like it. I am hoping that you use some for of extra lubrication aside from what comes on the condom, if not try ID Slide lube. It will help it ease in.

No, there is nothing you can do for the pain, but you can maybe lessen it by buying anal plugs of different sizes to use, it will strech it.

Good luck with it if you decide to continue doing it, but really if you're not into it you shouldn't do it.

Hun>you dont need to please anybody when it causes you pain! Its not true....all girls DONT like anal sex.

If this is something that you dont enjoy, because it is so painful, you need to stop doing it. It can do damage to the wall of your rectum. Pain is a sign. It means to STOP! Your boyfriend is not being very respectful of your feelings. Get a dildo, and stick it up HIS butt, see how he likes it! If he screams, tell him that ALL guys really like it!

You can't just jump right into butt sex.

It's something that takes a lot of time and stretching to become comfortable and possibly pleasureful.

Probably not! If it hurts you now it most likely always will and if you don't want to do it just stop.
Besides it's not the right place to be sticking his rod even tho it is portrayed as such in a lot of X rated movies and it's also not true that a lot of women like it this way, just a small minority of women do. I have to agree with angelfire2708 on this one.

I know what you are talking about ... me and my boyfriend have tried it and the only thing that we have found to work was this stuff called anal ease we bought it from a passions party that my sister was having and it kinda nubs it so you dont really feel it and you can loosen up much better

wow believe me.. lots of girls have been through this, its not an embarressing question. me and my boyfriend tried it and it hurt me so bad that he promised me to never let him do it again. he felt so bad. it is a painful thing, and just tell your boyfriend that it hurts you too bad.... you dont need to please him. just have safe sex, that way it works for both of you

Yea he just keeps telling me that if I stretched it out that it would be so much better. I want to please him in anyway I can but if I am pretty much in tears its not a good sign. He is respectful though he doesnt do it unless I let him which is not very often. Im just thinking if I go to a s*ex shop that I will find something. He bought some good lube and he does lube up but just the pressure in my butt is so unbarable. We have a very very good S*EX life and not doilng a*nal decrease the mood and him wanting me. Its just me that I want to want to like it and him to be able to have everything available to him. Im guessing that I will just go and look for something like as someone said to numb it to stretch it.

Thanks all!

if it hurts you and he knows it he should accept it and realize how much pain your giving up for him. If you want it to hurt less.. I recomend:

try using your finger when your in the bath tub seems awkward it hurts but spread your butt cheeks and slowly put one in. get something small and work your way up.
mine killed. Its probably also how fast and hard he puts it in. I flew like 6 feet and cried when he tried to wham it in like its suppose to fit in there..

when you take a poop and press out effortlessly and put a lot of lube on, and he goes VERY slowly in, itl feel awkward, but to take your mind off of it, play with your cli*t it works

and as for stretching it.. DONT STRETCH IT TOO FAST. you have an*al muscles and if you rip those they dont grow bakc together and you WILL have an*al leakage. You have to slowly work your way up. feel at ease.. the best way is doggy style, use a cond*om, lots of lube and take your time! I hopei helped

when you press out effortlessly.. thats how you want to have your anu s accepting him

if it hurts, then you're not doing it right or you're going too fast. you really need to work up to having his thing in your butt.

a finger first, then two, then three, etc

and LOTS OF LUBE

he has to go slow or else it will hurt. after a while you may find you like it. but don't go too fast and don't ever try it without lots of lube or it will hurt

no you cant stop the pain but you can tell him we aint gone do an*al no more so you can just have normal s*x