Why does it hurt so bad at this point?

okay, so I'm a virgin. and I've been using this sex toy thing and when I go back about 4.5 inches it starts to hurt really bad. and I don't know if that's my hymen or if that's like where my cervix is. can someone please help me out? I don't want to seriously hurt myself.

It could be your hymen, but probably not.

Many people think the hymen is located far inside a woman and only the male genitals can break it. That's not the case though.

The hymen is actually part of the external female genitalia. So it's outside your body, not inside. If you know what to look for, you can actually see it if you use a mirror.

Also, the hymen is so thin and delicate that most girls tear it in childhood or puberty from things like running, jumping, fingers, and tampons.

However, everyone is different. So some girls have a really tough and stretchy hymen that stays intact after all of that. Some hymens even stay intact after intercourse because they can stretch so much.

Most of the time, the cervix does not get in the way of intercourse. However, people are built differently. So some women have a cervix that is low enough that a man's genitals can hit it and cause pain during intercourse.

You could always see an ob-gyn. That would probably be your best bet. She would be able to make sure everything looks normal and healthy down there.

It sounds like you are hitting your cerivix to me because your hymen is located right as you go into the v*gina.